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writes:I've started seeing a guy. We've been seeing each other for about a month and had lots of fun, we were kind of friends before and it's been great getting to know each other. The problem is that I'm going travelling in 2 months. He knows this and I don't think we planned to get as close as we have. The other thing is that neither of us have spoken about what's going on between us and where we are heading etc. I do want to speak about it and know it has to be done because I think we both have a lot that we want to say and have held back. For me it feels that if I do bring it up and we have a conversation about the future then am I bringing the relationship to a more serious level when it doesn't need to be? But if I leave it and we carry on, I feel we're getting closer and closer and making it a bigger transition when the time comes for me to go? I don't know how he feels about it but without sounding naive, i don't think he is interested in one thing and only wants to mess around, he avoids the topic of me leaving and seems quite upset when i bring it up. Should I introduce the conversation? And if so How?? Thankyou! Reply to this Question
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reader, The old Man?  +, writes (20 July 2009):
 It seems that timing isn't always on our side, but being that it bothers him when you bring up the subject, I see that as an indication that he has feelings for you as well.
Perhaps you could say something to the effect of " ya know, I really enjoy the time we spend together, and it's too bad I can't stuff you in my suitcase and take you with me! Being that's not an option, how about we keep in touch while I'm gone, cuz I'm going to miss you, and I'd like to see you when I get back."
Maybe that's bad advice, but it's something that I'd do...
I hope this helps.
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