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writes:I've met this man right after I ended my marriage of 22 years. He is 20 years older than me. He made me feel attractive again and helps me to put my life on track. We live in separate house. He has no children and live on his own. I live with an adult daughter. We've been together for 6 years. He is helpful around my house but he isnt a caring person I've always wanted in my life. And he loves being looked after by me. My feeling towards him has changed. I told him I dont love him anymore and I have to go. He takes it badly and begs me to give myself time to think again. I understand he's got nobody and I've got my daughter to cushion me. I feel awful to see him break down and cry. I just dont know what to do. Please advise. Reply to this Question
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reader, viel  +, writes (21 June 2012):
 I heard you. I'm currently in the same situation. I broke up with this guy back in January and we're still living together up to now but without physical contact. He cried hard, begging me not to leave him because "I'm the only one he's got in this world" just like how he said it. Geez, he should have thought about that before messing everything up, but I pitied him and gave in to his wish, aside from the fact that we have a 4 yr old son. And I'm still thinking of what to do to make him leave without my guilt eating me. I'm in a border of feelings between guilt and hate. Yeah, hate, after all the things he's done to me.
to: CaringGuy, coming from a male, that's a really nice thing to think about. You are so right.
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reader, -auntyagony  +, writes (6 June 2012):
-you can't stay in this relationship like this, you already said yourself that you need to go, so go! yes it will be hard for him, and yes your going to feel guilty but isn't it better to do it now, instead of waiting another few years being unhappy? you deserve to be happy too. Collect your stuff explain that you'd rather tell him now then let it carry on. and then leave with your head held high. at the end of the day you have done nothing wrong!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (5 June 2012):
Yes you do know what to do. You wrote it yourself. You have to go. That pretty much sums it up really. Yes, he might feel alone, but this is a situation that he'll just have to deal with. You're not his mother, you're not his carer. He's a grown man, and he doesn't have the right to continually guilt trip you into staying.
Next time, go with your daughter and a friend to collect your stuff, and leave. That way, you'll have two people to help you and he won't guilt trip you again.
You can't live your life for someone else.
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