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writes:Danny and I made a year May 27 and have been engaged almost a year. Tuesday he said he wanted to marry me and was in love with me and wasn't changing his mind. The wedding date was June 16. Well Wednesday he woke up to a small argument between my mom and I about the wedding,about money. She was unable to give me the wedding she wanted to but we didn't care. We wanted a smaller wedding anyway. (My parents and his were splitting costs). My dad gave me the rest of the money I owed on my dress and I went into our room. He asked what was going on and I acted as if it was nothing which it was and told him about the argument (he wanted to know) but i made it seem as if it was no big deal and then happily told him about the dress. He got upset and said he just wanted to marry me nothing else mattered. He seemed like something was wrong a little later and usually I leave it be but this time I pushed it....he left claiming he needed space....well Thursday he came back and made no sense. He did not know what he wantes or if he was in love and broke it off....however he came to ask for more space but Dad basically made him make a decision. He packed the rest of his things and left. Danny told his friend there was a 75 percent chance he would come home and he felt i didn't accept his lifestyle. He is into tats and piercings and such and I am a little more conservative. I admit I may have come off unsupportive at times and am sincerely willing to prove I am fully supportive of anything he does (within reason lol wont suppprt him in something dangerous haha) but ive cried since he left (wednesday) and I found hope in what his friend told me. Is that a good thing about the 75 percent thing? He said look at it like this...75 is better than 50, and if someone says there is a 75 chance of rain the rain will come, just hold your head up and wait for the rain. But i guess my question is should I call him? Its been almost a week....should I try to.see him or should I wait? Please don't make comments about our age or details about the wedding or anything like that. The argument with my.mom was because she was upset her job was ending.sooner thanits expected and just felt like yapping, it was wrong of me to.argue back.but I cannot.change it. So how do i better my chances to.get him back, what should I do, and any other details that will help me. I am in love with him and have made up my mind. Please give me the advice I am looking for. Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHis mother keeps calling me and texting me....but she keeps trying to talk to him. I asked her to leave it alone and to give him space but she is still bugging him and he got upset with her. I haven't called to see what he said to her. I know out of anger things will be said. So how should I handle this? I don't want him to think I'm having her talk to him because I am not.....so how do I handle this? And another thing, I am having surgery on my hand should I tell him?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): If you want him back follow Dance in the dark's advice. Make him earn his way back.
He won't value you any other way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI understand your opinion and I am grateful. However there were a lot of things I just don't have patience to write out. Just know he does love me and I love him. Please tell me how to get him back. Do I call? Not call? Help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIf he meant 50 he would have said that, and yes people do. It is called cold feet. By all means look it up. Now I apologize if I come off snappy, but my question was not if I should move on. I refuse. I love him. My question was how to GET HIM BACK. Answer the question or please do not comment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): Good lord luv! Don't let this guy shake you down like this. If he loved you the way you so obviously love him, you wouldn't be here diluting your essence by asking other people to give you some sort of scrap of hope to hang on to.
You deserve better than this. You deserve to have someone who doesn't walk out on a whim.
You need someone that takes the little hardships and uses them to make the two of you stronger.
He's out there.
I don't think this is him.
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reader, DanceInTheDark  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Don't contact him.
Seriously, Don't call him.
Let him come back on his own, it'll mean more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): You can't. 75% most likely means 50% or less. He only said 75% to make himself look good. You can't make this 100%. Sorry it's not the answer you're looking for but it's the truth. It's best to let him go. Doing otherwise is just stupid. You just don't disappear before a wedding. It's a time when spouses are very much in love and supportive of one another. He isn't. Don't be foolish.
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