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anonymous
writes:I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 19 and i just needed some advice. Is it ok if he browses for girls to check out on sites such as myspace? And he also goes on a site where people put up sexy videos and pics. I have a feeling he gets off to them. I dont know if i should be bothered by this i just feel kinda betrayed. Also i've started feeling really paranoid about him checking people out. Am i over reacting or is he wrong? Oh, and on one site he actually paid for membership so he could look at 'XXX' pics!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2008): your not overreacting at all hun you should totally confront him about and make him stop and show you some love and respect!
but be prepared heaps of guys his age do porn and think its ok and normal and natural and will think your over reacting and you should just relax and let him have his porn and that he still loves you and its ok..
but it really isnt! your guy should only have eyes and a heart and body and everything for you thats the way it should be! by looking at these pics of others girls even the girls in the porn that he could never contact he is disrespecting you and not truly loving you!
tell him its porn or you!
be strong!
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reader, debzzido  +, writes (24 June 2008):
 I'm sure this hurts you , feeling like your not satisfing him enough so he has to look at porn,but he is a man, and at that age they are horn dogs, its normal ,but if he knows how it makes you feel then he should respect you enough to either stop or find a happy medium, talk to him about it ,and see if he is willing to cut back for your sake. There is one hard solution, pull back from him, dont call him , just live your life without him and he will see how it is without you,if its meant to be he will come back once he realizes what he lost
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): First, are you 12 years old or 18? At 12, you and your boyfriend are below the legal age to be going to porn sights.
Second, yes he is being very disrespectful to you, I would have a talk with him and explain to him how you feel..put it in terms of "when you do this, I feel this...."
If he does not respect your feelings dump him! Find someone that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2008): I think you've handled the situation pretty well thus far. Most all guys like porn (especially at 19). So its up to you to let him know whats acceptable & not. If it makes you feel uncomfortable you have to let him know. If he continues doing it, then its up to you if you want to continue this relationship.
BTW he WILL consider you to be over-reacting. To guys porn isn't such a big deal & at 19 it is considered more or less the norm for guys that age. I would say you encourage him to look at it sparingly instead of not watching it at all. Definitely he should quit paying for it.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (24 June 2008):
If I was in your position id be pretty upset too!!! So dont feel like you are overeacting, although if you confront your bf he may like to try and make you feel and think that you are just making a big deal out of nothing.
I understand why you are feeling "paranoid" and bothered by your bf's behaviour. I think you have every right to be upset and to expect more of him.
Whats hes doing is disrespectful to you and your relationship. Its important you let him know that this upsets you, but dont accuse him of cheating.
Explain to him how you feel, and let him know what is acceptable and not. Hopefully he will understand and stop doing what hes doing. If he doesnt, its time to re consider the relationship.
Best of luck and remember, dont ever settle for less!
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reader, jay12toes +, writes (24 June 2008):
 i dont think thers anything wrong with him looking up porn but if he is going on myspace and specificaly looking for hot girls then that is a problem because he actually has the ability to talk to these girls. with porn he has no way of talking to the porn star so shes not a threat but any cute girl he looks up on myspace can be.
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