A
female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:i really need help. it may not seem like a big problem but i'm beggining to think there is something wrong with me. i have written before but only got one reply. i really want a boyfriend but i can't have one. whenever i fancy someone and (sometimes) someone asks me out, i feel really phisically sick. it's definitly not the boys, it's me because it has happened a number of times. other girls get boyfriends so easily. i just want to know how to overcome it, and if anyone has ever felt like me. i am really scared of being completely ignorant when i co to uni or college and i haven't even kissed anyone yet! i just really hope i'm not lonely like this forever,please help,Thanks. XxxX
View related questions:
never had a boyfriend Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, blackberry008  +, writes (30 September 2008):
 Hey I only kissed a guy when I was 17. And I believe you are around that age.
I only had a boyfriend when I was 17 years old.
Look you are very lucky not to have a boyfriend. People around 20 - 25 wished they never had a boyfriend yet. Because having too many boyfriends sometimes is not good.
Wait til you are 18 or wait til you have matured.
I am 24 and I don't have a boyfriend for 2 years now.
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2008): i have the same prod but i really this guy but i dont think he likes me and next time a guy ask u out get over the sickness and say yes
...............................
A
male
reader, Aredas  +, writes (20 October 2007):
 Hey, just so you know, its not pathetic or something that you havent kissed anyone at your age, i know plenty of people my age (which IS your age) that havent been kissed yet (myself included).I'm sorry but i dont know anything about your problem, but i would just say get used to being around guys... maybe this is a problem that will solve itself.
Aredas
...............................
A
female
reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 October 2007):
 It's normal to be sick with nerves. I know that sometimes people get so nervous about public speaking, they throw up. Same thing. You've never been kissed before, you're not used to being around guys... of course you'll be painfully nervous.
Maybe the boy who tried kissing you wasn't really the guy for you. Maybe that was your heart telling you it wasn't the right person or time.
I think you'll be a lot more calm when you're kissing someone who really means something to you. You'll still be nervous and maybe even feel a little sick, but once you actually kiss you'll feel great.
Don't worry, doll. Boys aren't scary. In fact, they're kind of silly. Try being friends with a few so that you can get used to being around them.
You're perfectly normal. Don't worry!
xxIndia
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): - from problem sender -
the thing isn't that im scared around boys, i have loads of friends that are boys, or desperate to fit in. it's just there is this boy, who whenever i see him i feel something, but he tried to kiss me and i felt ill. i feel so weird, like i'm not normal.
...............................
A
male
reader, dapone 1 +, writes (18 October 2007):
 dear anon
i do not think there is a cure for your problem,you are causing it to happen because the excitement you feel when a guy ask you out,you need to chill out more, relax and try and control your self, example when a guy comes up to you and say hi doll wanna go out, instead of getting all excited, control your reaction, if it help say to your self calmly, i can do this several time taking deep breaths in, slow breath out,i can do this keep control of your breathing large in slow breath out, practice this in your bed room, and when your confidence grows you wont need to do it any more.
hope this help let me now how you get on.
...............................
A
female
reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (18 October 2007):
My goodness you are desperate for a man! Why are you this desperate, is it because all of your friends have boyfriends, or everyone else at school is hooked up and you feel left out?
My best friend, she is gorrrgeeeoouusss (i'm jealous), she didn't get a boyfriend until she was 18. She was just trying too hard and worried too much. Finally, when she settled down a little bit - then it was much easier to find a guy.
As Tommy7 said, try to befriend a few guys. Get used to being around them. It sounds like you get kind of nervous around guys, so you ought to spend some time just hanging around some and talking to them. The best relationships start as friends first and then bloom into something much stronger.
Be comfortable with YOURSELF and then the guys will come. Don't spend time chasing them and worried about not having a boyfriend. It's okay to be single, it really is. And the calmer you are, the happier you are inside of yourself, the more people will be attracted to you and want to be around you.
Happy people attract happiness!
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
...............................
A
male
reader, Tommy7 +, writes (18 October 2007):
Start concentrating on talking to boys as just friends. After you have a few friends that are boys, you'll find one that is special. Invite him to a movie, library, game or other fun stuff. Don't try to leap from stranger to bf.
...............................
|
