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anonymous
writes:So i've been with my guy for years..we met in my home town where i grew up.When i graduated the two of us moved 5hrs away from there to the 'big city'. We both decided it wasn't for us but instead of moving back to my hometown we agreed to move to his to be with his family.I absolutley love this town and really don't want to move but here I am years later,steady job,lots of friends and am close with my boyfriends family.Theres just one thing: i really miss my own family.I only get to visit them evry 4 to 6 weeks due to my work schedule.All my siblings are starting families and i just feel like im missing out on their lives.They are all so busy with work,their kids and daily things that they don't have time to come see me much either. So now I'm debating if i should move back to have my family.My boyfriend is set on living here and buying a house,he's got a great job he dosn't want to give up but really dosn't want me to leave.So here i am torn in between chosing him or my family! I dunno wut to do :-(
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (24 January 2007):
 Sometimes you just have to choose.
You have a good job, relationship and friends and you seem very happy with it.
Would you really want to trade it all in just for the opportunity to be with your family more? Wouldn't it make you a mere spectator, watching other people's happiness but probably missing your boyfriend and your new friends?
Meeting your family once every 4-6 weeks sounds great to me.
I know how you feel though. Sometimes the longing for parents and siblings can make one feel broken inside. I've been seeing my parents and brother 3 times a year and I miss them very much, but I make a point to call them once a week and in some weird way it works.
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