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writes:Well I've gone and lost my best friend all because I was drunk and was talking about her in a negative fashion on messenger at her house no less. So when she turned her computer back on the whole conversation popped up. How stupid of me to even talk about my friend in that manner let alone being at her own home. I feel like i'm dying inside but I was up most of the night last night thinking maybe this is supposed to happen because I have been having problems drinking for over a year now I suffered a stroke 3 years ago and had moved back to my hometown to be closer to people I knew. So me and my family lived with her and her husband for over six months while we got settled and enough money saved to get our own place. She drinks every night and so I started drinking with her and well just never stopped. I am stopping now I see I have lost control of my whole life my children are suffering emotionally because I'm just not there for them emotionally. My husband goes to bed alone because I'm always up late drinking and most of the time at her house drinking. So I have lost site of what I'm doing here. I want to patch things up with my friend or do I? She tells me that we aren't alcoholics but if we aren't then why do we have to have it every night. I don't know what to do? She has hurt me before plenty in the past and I have always forgiven her. She drinks and gets really mean and will say hurtful things and then always apologize the next day. I have always been there for her when she needed to use my car to go tan or just run errands. I take her to lunch i listen to her constantly about her marriage and try to help however I can.. I don't know what to do here and as I said before maybe this is meant to happen so that I could get off the drink and be sober and present in mind and body for my family? Not to mention for my on health.. Anyone???
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much Misskin this is a very helpful answer and straight to the point which is exactly what i need at this moment... Someone not beating about the bush and trying to spare my feelings I think that you may be right and maybe this happened so that I can have this time to sort out my life and get back on track with my children and my life!! Thank you!!
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 It may be a bit harsh, but I think you are at a point in your life where you should just drop everything negative. Drop the friendship (for now) apologise, leave it that way.
Take some time to sort out your life, otherwise you're not a friend to anybody, especially not yourself.
You're worried about your drinking and need to gain support for this if you feel it is a problem. support is not hanging around somebody who denies your problem.
Sort out yourself and worry about your friendship later. Concentrate on sorting out issues a bit closer to home, if you're meant to be friends you'll get back together later on, but sometimes friendships are destructive.
Hope this helps. xx
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