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writes:hi, this seems immature but i want to ask anyway. ive moved schools but still keep in good touch with the freinds from my old school, (which i left over a year ago. in my new school i have no friends, i dont know why, i guess i just dont really belong in the school. i thought thats ok though because i have my old friends who i love etc. the problem is i just had my 18th, and out of everyone only 3 people came clubbing with me for it. out of those 3, two being my bestfriends from that school, only one gave me a present, and even that was only a bottle of cava. this was the one who wasnt even a best friend!!! i didnt tell them it was an 18th party, just a going out to celebrate i now legally can, but id still expect presents?? i gave them great presents, and i know its not about getting back what youve given, but the fact is i got nothing! so basically im friendless. is this being over dramatic or do i have a point? i havnt discussed this with them, coz feel its childish. but its really getting me down. tyxx
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (6 February 2011):
 Gift giving is so lame. I really feel your pain. I send out birthday gifts, Christmas gifts, cards for cute little holidays and I never get anything in return. My friends are extremely lame at that. But, they give me other things like phone calls, support when I'm sad or angry. They remember the little things, and will know how to make me smile when I'm down. I KNOW they are my friends, despite the fact that they rarely get me gifts.
Friendship is a lot more than the gifts. Sometimes the gift is an extraordinary friendship - and that is way better than like, a DVD.
I feel your pain and know it is disappointing, but if they give you awesome friendship - consider that a happy 18th present! Good luck, sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): You're not friendless, but you do so sound materialistic.
Presence, not presents define a friendship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): A lot of people are different so we expect different things from others. For example, I can care less about presents, some people cant afford them and I feel really bad that they are spending money on me. But I do think that is important that they remember that is my birthday and that they come and greet me. When I was a kid I rarely got any presents, we were very poor. But being grateful even if you didn't get anything makes you happier.
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