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writes:okay so once long time ago there was a 14 year old girl who loved everything!now she got hurt so much by a guy that she cant love anymore..she let him go but the pain remains..long story short..she dosent love anyone not even her family! what should i do?? i cant love anymore!i stopped believing in love! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): It could be that your emotions have switched themselves off for a little while, as caring right now is too painful. After being hurt, I think it is a natural reaction to feel as you do.
Give yourself some time to heal. How can you be expected to feel love and warmth when you are in pain right now? It doesn't mean that you don't love people, like your family. But you just aren't feeling it right now.
Have you tried talking to someone about how you feel? That can help, to let it out. When all of the negative stuff is relaesed, the good feelings can flow again. And try thinking about the future, rather than staying stuck on what has happened. You have had a bad experience. So now, what would you like to do? Can you maybe plan some good things? Anything, so long as it gives you some hope.
Maybe you could try doing something fun with your family, to lighten the mood a bit. Doing enjoyable things with people can make us feel closer to them.
Whatever you do though, don't lose faith, don't give up. Your feelings may be taking a little break for now, having a rest...but they will come back. It may simply take a bit of time, that's all. x
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reader, Felisha Marie +, writes (6 August 2009):
 Honey take a deep breath. You may be also asking yourself what exactly is love? Love, is a conscious decision made by any person. You can CHOOSE to love your Mother, Father, Grandparents siblings and other family. You are supposed to always love you family, you may not feel you like them, but Imsure you still love them. At your age, you may be in a big state of confusion, where you feel the need to be accepted. And currently, you want to fill the emptiness with love.
All is well in life and love right? Thats totally up to you, you choose who you love and how you love them and what you love them for. This isnt something you can just throw up your arms and say that you cant help it, you can. Take action, get in touch with yourself, and turn your love around.
Best wishes.
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