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writes:I have had two miscarriages close together (April 08 and August 08) - at around 8wks each time. My husband and I are quite devastated following the second. The first we put down to bad luck, but when it happened again it got us worrying. However, we have a healthy child (2 yrs) and we know it is possible for us - so we still hope to add to our family. I am wanting people's opinions or experiences on whether we should 'wait a few cycles' or not before trying to conceive again. All the Dr's we have spoken with have said that there is no medical reason why we should wait - they used to say to wait for at least one period - but that was more for 'dating' the pregnancy purposes - but nowadays they do dating scans so you don;t even need to have that one. The Dr's say it is more about feeling emotionally 'ready' to try again - so whenever you do that's fine. (I had one period after the first mc, and have just had the first one after the second mc too).On the other hand I have had all the family members and friends I have told telling me I should 'wait' a few months, let my body get back into a rythmn , give myself time to recover etc etc etc. (Which kind of makes me feel like it was my fault...which I know isn;t the case if I am thinking rationally...but still it hurts, especially when you have no 'answers'). So - my husband wants to try again, I want to too...but there's a part of me that worries that maybe I should wait??? If it happens again will I think it was because we didn't? What do you guys think?
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reader, pepper27  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 Hi Hunny
First sorry to hear of your pain sweetheart, If your doctor says it ok to go ahead and you are happy to try then it is entirely up to your choices as parents to try for another child when you feel comfortable to do so. The body itself will heal hunny and nature will take its course, There is so much more modern scanning these days. If you are comfortable and feel ready after the m/c its up to you as a family. As the mother and after what you have been through if you have that shaddow of doubt wait untill you feel 100% sure, Other people in your family are probably concerned and worried for you, LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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