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writes:Hi im 15 like all girls that came on this page i want a baby too...but my situation kinda different from everyone elses on why i want a baby ...my boyfriend is 17 now he just turned 17 ...and a year ago i was a pregnant twice and got two abortions i didnt want to but my mom made me choose between living with her or having a baby it was so much pressure ...at 1st me n and my boyfriend was scared we didnt want a baby but now ..ever since that happened its like we want one ....ever since i got the abortion i was crying my boyfriend was crying it was sad ...i wonder if my baby could of been cute he could of been a doctor or lawyer a singer he couldnt been something n its my fault he not here ...ever since then i wanted a baby ..i would sacrifice everything i know its a big responsibility but im willing to do it all... u know it sucks when u get into a arguement with ur mann and he blames me for the abortion ...but he was right i could of just stood up to my mom and had the baby ..i need help i need guidance ..please tell how do i deal with this situation? its haunting me.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (23 February 2009):
 You are asking for a life of pain and suffering if you go ahead and have a baby at your age.
You will struggle to make ends meet, work 9-5 for barely nothing, and although you love your boyfriend now... there is no guarantee that he will stick around to help you raised this child.
You are 15. Why do you want this responsiblity on yourself. YOu need to focus on yourself and your life.
What are your dreams and aspirations? You goals in life.
Don't worry about your childs...or boyfriends. this is about you.
You are feeling guilty about the babies you aborted. But two wrongs do not make a right.
What you need to do is learn from your mistakes. If you are going to have sex... Go get protection. Use a condom and get on the pill. Do something!! Be Proactive... meaning
prevent the pregnancy by taking precautions...instead of Reactive...which is getting an abortion.
Listen. You are young. You made mistake. Don't make another huge mistake by having a baby. If you think a baby will bring you the love that is missing in your life ..you are hugely mistaken. You need to learn to give that love to yourself. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): okay I'm not trying to be mean at all...! But abortions are so wrong.... Okay I'm a prety big Christian... And I'm not trying to b all religious but rly evryone deserves to have a chance at life ur only 15!!! Way too young to b having sex peirod...... Foreal n if u ended up prgo.... U gota deal with it... Bc all that is so wrong.... It's not the baby fault 2 dumb kids r wanting to screw n the baby shouldn't have to pay 4 that all I'm saying is u got to stand b4 god for everything u do... N for 1having sex b4 ur married is wrong n exp having abortions.....
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reader, chrissy121005 +, writes (23 February 2009):
girl, u r way to young to be geting pregnet. do u no the responsiblity this involves?
havin a aboration in the first place tells me ur not ready to have a child, so dont have one.
unless u both have a job, and can suport the baby, and u can take care of a baby 24/7 and u can deal with the crying without ur mom, forget about the baby
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2009): TWO abortions, and now you want to get pregnant again!?
This is not fair for the ANY baby. Clearly your not taking responsiblities for your desicions. What happens if you get pregnant and then something happens and you have to get an abortion again? Stop and think about your choices.. Yes, it's definetly sad to get abortions, but you can't live upon 'what if's' and 'if i had just done this..' Your only fifteen, your just a baby yourself, and if you really believe your ready for a baby.. it shouldn't just happen.. it just be agreed upon everyone.. that means your mom too.
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reader, AllisonDro +, writes (23 February 2009):
well, after an abortion (especially one you were pressured into), a lot of healing needs to occur. Don't mistake your sadness for longing for a child. You are 15 and have absolutely no business having a baby - I encourage you to see a doctor and educate yourself about contraception.
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