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*o Evelyn
writes:I've been head over heel in love with my son's teacher for nearly 18 months. I've been in a lesbian relationship once a long time ago and now I know that she is the right one and all I want. Cheesy but true. I wish I knew what to do!!! Let her know how I feel or take it slow and wait for ... I myself don't know what?
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (2 April 2011):
If you're still trying to get her to "look your way" after these warnings, perhaps this warning will be the most powerful: if you don't want your son and any other children you have to go through SERIOUS depression issues, if you don't want your son and other children to hate you, if you don't want your son to blame himself for breaking up the marriage (because he's the one who caused you to meet the woman who, if you continue this, WILL destroy his family) and have your son blame himself for ruining his own childhood if you don't want your son to have an exponentially increased potential for either bullying or being bullied, if you don't want your son to harbor resentment towards women and increase the liklihood that he will be abusive towards women when in relationships, if you don't want your son to have a significantly increased risk for suicide, if you care at all for your son and for your other children, then you will STOP trying to get this woman to "look your way." You may not have everything alright in your marriage, but for your son's sake, for your sake, END ALL THOUGHTS OF BEING WITH THIS WOMAN! It will NOT go well for you. It will NOT go well for your son. End all hope of being in a relationship with her. Work through your issues with your husband. If you end up having a divorce, even then it is not OK to pursue this particular woman. This is not just a list of "minuses." This is a direct, prophetic warning: DO NOT PURSUE THIS WOMAN!
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reader, Jo Evelyn +, writes (1 April 2011):
Jo Evelyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your replies! I've thought about all those 'minuses' of the situation you are mentioning in your posts and I can agree with most of your warnings. What worries me most is how to find out if she is gay without making a fool of myself. I don't want to act behind anybody's back, that won't be fair to my husband or her. Still, I'm genuinely in love with her and i would try anything to make her look my way...
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reader, Drat001 +, writes (1 April 2011):
eyeswideopen is 100% right. I've been there, done that with a married woman involved with another woman (as the other woman). It's best to get things completely sorted out with him before you get involved with another woman. If you don't, trust me, it will VERY likely go badly, VERY badly for you, for her, for him, for your children.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 Take care of your marriage situation before you think about doing anything else. If you are going to leave your husband don't wait until you have another fish frying in the pan, that's just plain unclassy. Do the right thing so you don't lose your child's (and everyone else's)respect down the line. Once you are single THEN AND ONLY THEN should you check out this lady's sexual orientation.
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reader, 2Dumb2notice +, writes (31 March 2011):
First of all, you need to get one thing straight...although very flattering, you need to make sure her sexual interest flows in that direction...you can't make a straight person gay as much as you can turn a gay person straight... does she even like same sex romances?! Once you have established this... I hate to involve your child but if he is old enough tell him to ask his teacher "what she thinks of you?" if the feedback is positive try to arrange a meeting with her to find out more about your son's progress in school (if it is a positive outlook) compliment her to a convincing degree that you are interested in getting to know about her more, keeping in mind that she may not be gay or single so protect your heart and actions whereas this is concern... but if she is single and gay and she tells you, you have nothing to worry about (that means she is probably interested in you too) you can always google her name and find out if she has a facebook account and send a secret message or two her way to confess how you feel in private after becoming a good friend to her there....this way if she shoots you down only you to would have know about it...so no harm done to your reputations.Goodluck:)
If you like or hate my advice feel free to reach my newly made channel on youtube youtube "Chromliah" tell me your results if you tried it or not....Thanks again!
Good Advice giver in training...;)
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reader, Jo Evelyn +, writes (31 March 2011):
Jo Evelyn is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am married but I've been thinking of separating from my husband, it's a matter of time. She is not married and I am 99% sure she is a lesbian. It's the way she looks at me, the way she dresses, her manners - everything. She is of the proper soft butch kind if you know what I'm saying but still I can't be sure...
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (31 March 2011):
Are you married? Is she married? Do you even know whether she is a lesbian?
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