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writes:i know this girl for 3 years...we were kinda friends and now i am totally in love with her. She is always nice to ppl, very sociable and good to talk to. She is beautiful and very smart. the problem is that i have been into her for like 6 months and she has eventually found out that i like her...and this fact is has made her cut off with me almost completely...she hasnt been talking to me anymore as much as she does with my friends and other guys. recently i found out by my friends that she thinks im not very good looking and she claims that she really does not like me. I dont think im the best as far as looks are concerned but im not bad.secondly i did not expect such a statement from her...she isnt like that. Everyday i try to be nice and impress her as much as i can but i just cannot catch her attention. I really like her despite all of her statements and i try not to care abt them. I want her...real bad !! please help me...i dont want "move on" or "get over her"i want to change her opinions about me and i want her to fall for me now !!please give me some useful advise please Reply to this Question
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (31 March 2011):
 No amount of reason, not even the best opinion can change your mind and heart to look for another girl in your present situation..Why? Because you are sick at heart and the name of the disease is " You are in love"..Even if you tell yourself to look for another girl, simply the heart won't follow. Don't worry, almost everyone has experienced what you are going through now. Some have pleasant memories, while unfortunately, some went thru a hard time just like what you are experiencing now. The good news is,no one is stuck to this situation forever.How long will it last? It depends on how you cope up with it. But, regardless of length of time of recuperation, I assure you,it will pass. It's obvious that you are not her type of guy based on her flight reaction when she knew that you liked her in a very special way. No matter what you do, no matter how much effort you put to impress her,she ignores you.. It's an unrequited love.. such an agony! Would you like some proven strategy?Try avoiding her as much as you can if possible. I know the temptation to be with her is so strong it breaks you into pieces, but resist the temptation.Ignore her presence if she is around. Pretend she does not exist. Don't act depressed and pathetic. Just act in a normal manner, shift your focus by entertaining some other girls, be niceto them. Get out from her sight for several days, and show up at times, but don't focus on her when you appear..You will be surprised at what you will discover..either she'll find herself missing you, or you will find yourself not thinking much about her as you will realize there are some other interesting girls around worth head turning on.. Good luck!
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (31 March 2011):
The real question is this:
- are you man enough to face the truth? The fact that she is just NOT into you and that this is never going to change? That she is such a 'great' and 'nice' person that she couldn't even tell you this in your face?
If someone I had a crush on cut me off entirely when they found out and told others behind my back that they don't think I'm pretty enough and that they don't like me, I would come to the conclusion that this person is not as nice and deserving of my love as I considered them to be.
Do not be a pushover or a doormat. Where's your dignity, man? Instead of being more persistent, you should be ignoring her like she did you.
I have fallen in love many times and I know what it's like when that person doesn't love you back. It's better to face the truth than live in denial, trust me. We can't always get what we want, especially when it comes to things we REALLY REALLY want. That's just how it is. The sooner you accept that, the better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2011): the way I see it you have two options: confront her by telling her something like "what would it take for a somewhat arkward dude like me to get a bodacious babe like you?" or just remaining her friend for as long as possible wqaiting for a guy she really likes to break her heart really bad than make your move for love(remember to not push it so hard and to continue to be that all assuming supportive friend you have always to her)...if all else fails... being in her life is better than nothing at all right? So, just continue tpo be her friend. Goodluck brather:)
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reader, tunni007  +, writes (31 March 2011):
Well it's not use doing everything from hearsay, so disregard everything you have heard. She may like you and just be shy now she knows you like her.Text her, facebook her whatever ask how she is and say you just wondered whether you wanted to catch a certain film together as you saw the trailer and thought of her. Say you need a catch up as haven't seen her often and ask her if she is free on X day or X day?If she rejects your request or X day or X day she probably doesn't like you as more than a friend as people who like you back are more than willing to MAKE time for you.Hope this helps
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reader, thomas1214  +, writes (31 March 2011):
shes not going to like you an you can't make her like you. your in the friend zone so you HAVE TO GET OVER HER. and you must MOVE ON or else you'll be wasting time and energy on nothing
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