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male
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi, I like this girl. I told her that I wanted to be her friend and asked for her phone number.She said Yes and gave me her number. Now that I have her number, I don’t know what to do.I don’t know if she likes me more than a friend or gave me her number because she only wants to be friends.I don’t want to seem to eager or excited.- How can I find out if she is interested in being more than friends without directly asking her?- How long should I wait before contacting her?- Should I call her or text her?All answers are appreciated, please help.Thank you in advance.
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reader, Read-the-signs  +, writes (26 September 2012):
Don't delay or spend any more time analysing. Women love a keen man. Ring her now and arrange to go out. No need to say now on what basis. The best relationships start as friendships so no harm in starting out slowly and seeing how you feel as time goes on.
Make that call!!
Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2012): "How can I find out if she is interested in being more than friends without directly asking her?"
By asking her out on a date.
Why did you lie to her and tell her you wanted to be her friend? Bad move OP, you got her number under false pretences, she may be one of these idiots who think random guys ask for numbers for friendship and your lie has made that worse. Next time you get a girls number do so by telling her you'd like to take her out sometime.
That way you don't have to wonder if she's interested or not because she wouldn't have given you her number if she wasn't.
"How long should I wait before contacting her?"
Well seeing as you said you only wanted to be her friend then I don't think that matters, but the usual is a couple of days.
"Should I call her or text her?"
I'd text, lots of people like to call but in my experience most girls like a text first, that way they get your number, can put it in their phone and don't get any surprize calls from numbers they don't know. Lots won't even bother answering calls like that.
Just a simple 'Hey, this is Bruce, just thought I'd text you on my number. How are you today?'
Just take it from there and have a text conversation that day and then maybe ask her on a date.
One piece of advice OP, you've already laid down this whole thing as only a "friendship" deal from the start, so you're going to have to switch that to romantic interest or this may backfire on you badly, you may spend weeks taking this girl out only for her to get pissed off at you making a move because you said friendship.
Seriously, never mislead a girl you're interested in, make your intentions clear from the start. Then you won't have any of this confusion.
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