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writes:Ive Got an amazing lad after me .!!At one point i thought i loved him back but now im not surei said when i finish school im going to move away and he said hes going to come with me!Hes amazing hes absolutly adalises me!Theres nothing wrong with him. hes not like the rest of the lads ive gone out with!Hes normal down to earth and would do absolutly anything for me!The problem is i cant commit to himany time i try it just dosent work out i ignore him and avoid him the best i can!then he talks to his mates.. and one is both our best mate..she tells me to stop messin him rnd and her best mate that shes known for ages has such a go at me all the time!it annoys me and puts me ina realy bad mood and makes me not want to be with him even more!i just dont know what 2 do!i want to get out af what ive got myself into at the moment. but i cant.my mates mate who always has a go at me she said "hurt him! and ill hurt you!"just not sure what to do!i want to be free and single at my age!Help Please xx Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): It sounds like it must be an awkward thing for you to be going through, but shouldn't you just be honest? Event hough you've said this guy's really amazin, if you wanna be single then you've got the right to keep it that way if you want!
Maybe you should try telling him in the friendliest way possible so you don't hurt his feelings too much, just be honest and say you like him as a close friend but don't want to commit to anyone, if he's as great as you say surely he'll understand.
As for the threats, ignore them your life is nothing to do with them, so don't let them stop you living life how you want! You wouldn't be hurting this guy if you just stay honest :)
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reader, Skeez +, writes (12 July 2008):
 If you dont want a loving relationship then just stay single. tell him you cant commit and dont want to hurt him.
Then leave him alone.
He doesnt want you to play him, hes desperate to be with you and I think you should try it before u determine if you dnt want to. perhaps just date. still tell him ur unsure about being committed and etc coz he does need to know befor u take the nect step.
But its up to you.
goodluck xx
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reader, BendychickP  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 You are definetely in a tricky situation. This guy does sound wonderful, but if you don't want to be tied down to someone at your age, then don't tie yourself down. You need to first of all, talk to this guy about how you are feeling and if he loves you that much he will wait until you are ready for a relationship. Then you need to tell those girls to back off, that it is your business, not theirs. You should just take things slowly, never rush into things that you don't feel good about. This guy sounds fantastic, but if you don't think he's the guy for you then no one has the right to pressure you into a relationship. Just remember that there are plenty of great guys out there and this won't be the first guy that seems perfect. Please don't let these people make you feel like you have to be with this guy!Bendy xx
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