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anonymous
writes:HiI think i have fallen in love with my best friend. I know I am only 15 years old and you are probably thinking that I'm joking around or that I'm not in love with this girl but i am positive that I am.I really cannot stop thinking about her, she's the last thought when i go to bed and the first thought when i wake up. I put extra effort into picking my clothes, doing my hair when i go out to see her and everything and I think that i would make a good boyfriend to her as I would never want it to end.But this is the main problem, i don't think she likes me in that way and just to think this is enough to really break my heart. I want to be with her so bad and I want her to know without giving it away. My friend did suggest telling her however I don't think this is a good idea, especially if she doesn't like me (in that way) because as we're best mates it would become awkward n she might fade away from my life and I would rather have her as a mate than not at all.This is really starting to depress me and at my age I know I shouldn't be in love but I am and now I know why I shouldn't be. I mean in the past I've had flings with girls so I'm not used to this but i just do not know what to do and i desperately need your helpThanks
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reader, Islander  +, writes (7 March 2009):
 well first of all you were wrong when you said that you are still young to fall in love. well ain't true because even if you are still young at your age your hormones react to make you feel that way and everybody falls in love with somebody. i mean who doesn't right?
well i had the same situation a year ago we were best friends and we really did trust each other and though we both have feeling for each other more than that way we kept it to ourselves doubting that one or the other feels the same way. till the day that she went out with another guy i felt so lonely because i never get to laugh with her as much as i did that time but i was lucky because the guy turned out to be a player and i said to myself "this is my only chance to tell her how i feel about her" but yet like you did i chickened out then she told one of our friends that she's falling for me and coincidentally i told the same person that i'm falling for her. then that time our friend told everybody in our group about what he asked both of us and then everybody just told us "why don't you guys go out? you guys are a great couple you know that she feels this way for you and do you know that her feels this way for you too?" and we were like oh. then after that we both admitted that we feel a certain way about each other but it took us time to be together because we both agreed to stay on the best friends zone for a bit ten finally one of our friends noticed it and said "hey thought you guys are going out already" then that hit me on the spot because the thought of losing her to another guy just crossed my mind and then i decided to ask her out but i was surprised because she was gonna do the same way. she caught me off guard and she was the one who ended up asking me out.
well point is that you will never know the answer unless you tell her straight forward or someone teases you about it till you can't hold it any longer and just spit it out of your mouth. you have that feeling for her, tell her you wont lose anything if you try. if she says "we are just better of as best friends" then don't be too hard on yourself just be happy about it.
life's a gamble if you don't bet on it now you will never have the chance to do it again you only have one bullet to do it. don't be scared be a man.
i wish you good luck on what you will chose to do on your situation if i was there i would have asked both of you guys how you feel for each other and catch you off guard when we all hang out together.
well good luck
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reader, Moviefan +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Ten years from now if you didn't get in the car, will you wish you did.
Years from now will you wish you would of went out on that branch and asked her. Yeah it may be awkward to ask her especially if she doesn't like you. If she is really your close mate then you should both be able to hold the friendship together. So don't worry about it.
So what if she doesn't like you like that move, on there will be others. Until then just have fun being single.
Live without regret, if you ask at least you know for sure how things would come out and it wont haunt you down the road.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2009): the only way to know how she feels is to ask her! but it can be a scary thing, i know. maybe try subtle things to figure out if she could be interested ??? maybe she has no clue you like her and she's in the same boat as you? a safe bet might be getting an informant. ask a mutual friend that you both trust to ask her about her feelings about you. ;)
good luck
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reader, Msblessed +, writes (7 March 2009):
 Well hun if you want to be with her so bad tell her you like her because you can't be her boyfriend if you don't tell her. Suppose she does like you and you don't tell her then you'll be missing out on an amazing opportunity. Just tell her that you guys are so close and you love everything about her so you've fallen for her but you don't want it to get awkward if she doesn't feel the same way.
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