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writes:I have fallen in love with a friends wife. The problem is she has fallen in love with me. From the very beginning we both knew the attraction was ther. After 8 months of nothing but talking we finally got together for passionate love. This relationship has been going on for over 3 years now. Unfortunatly we ended up getting caught. For financial reasons we could not get together when she left her house. The financial reasons were just not her fault. I had my own issues with that. She returned home on my advice to try and make due. After that things were really great for us because even though she went back home we still seen eachother on a regular basis. About 8 months ago ive notice a drastic change in her. I'm getting excuses that she cant see me when I ask and most are legit. The whole problem is, she wont come up with any situation to see me. ie: it's not a good time. My heart has been ripped out of my chest. Not to mention the cell phone bill comming out of my wallet because she wont give in back. Today I had to get the balls up and just ask. Yes you guessed it. Are you sleeping again with youre husband. The answer was yes a few times. As you can tell, im on this site because the life was just sucked completely out of my entire body. My question is. She wont give the phone back, tells me thatIm the one she loves but has to do what she has to do to keep peace right now. she cant afford to leave her house and I cant afford to bring her in. Please understand that I love this beautiful woman. Im hurting so deep inside I dont know wher to turn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2009): you betrayed your best friend. and she her husband. people use the word KARMA, a lot and I think you are feeling i right now. betrayal stinks doesn't it? you are now in the same position her husband was when she started having sex with you. Now that she is having sex with her husband your whole world is tumbling down, imagine what it did to him and continued to do too him while you were sleeping with HIS WIFE.
You advised her to mave back home, what did you expect? That she could use her husband financially and not pay with her body.....it's called conjugal rights and he was entitled. Both you and this woman stooped so low by orchestrating her moving in with her husband again, yet continued to sleep together. That was double betrayal. If she so cunningly used her husband, what is stopping her from doing the same to you.
Your best friend does not deserve this. Yet again, an innocent has to pay the price for one's infidelity. Are you still married? If so you have major problems.
You abviously still want hsi woman in your life, but at what price? You have stabbed her husband in the back (your "former best friend) for the past 3 years, surely he deserves better. Better than the both of you. Where is your self worth right now, how do you justify your actions? You have engaged in the ultimate betrayal but still want the ill gotten gains. So perhaps you both deserve each other. Then no one else can get hurt.
Just tell her to divorce her loyal/ faithful husband. Let him find someone to love him. He deserves a chance at happiness. By having this deceitful woman in his life is doing him more harm. Maybe you can dedeem yourself and ensure that she frees him, free him to move on to a better someone who will not use him and betray him.
FRIEND, this lady did it with you, she is now doing it to you...in this case it is her husband.....but what stops her from moving onto someone else. Morals and integrity is sadly lacking here. You just found out about her true colours.
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (25 March 2009):
 I agree with 1605.
Your situation definitely stinks because we never really choose who we fall for... But at the same time you don't really have the right to morn her loss. She was never yours to begin with, and you need to acknowledge that fact.
I don't know the situation first hand, but I'm not sure I buy the whole "financial reasons for staying with my husband" stuff she is spouting... Where there is a will there is a way. There is always a way for people who are in love to make things work.
I'm sorry for what you are going though. Feel better!
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (25 March 2009):
 Please fill in one detail for us: are you still with your wife?
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reader, bOy CrAzY;} +, writes (25 March 2009):
Oh you poor thing!!! I'm so sorry;) but i'm not really trying to be rude but she sounds like a w****e!! But....well there really isn't much to say here ;) cause if she isn't makin any effort to meet you or anything and she is sleeping with her HUSBAND again and then she says that she loves you!!! Well you should tell her to make up her mind that she can either be with you or him she either loves you or she doesn't right? ;) sorry that's all ii got right now!!;) sooo good luck with that:)
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