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How can I relax and enjoy myself??

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Question - (25 March 2009) 2 Answers - (Newest, 25 March 2009)
A male United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

I have been single for 4 years and now I have a special someone i have met.

We want to have sex but its been so long since ive been intimate with somebody its like I'm starting all over again. i don't know what to do , say, how to act. my mind races and I fall apart.

It makes me so nervous id almost rather not have sex at all. How can I relax and enjoy myself??

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A female reader, Olivia(Y). United Kingdom +, writes (25 March 2009):

Olivia(Y). agony auntTalk to your partner and talk things through about what you are going to do, when and where.

Before you jump straight into sex play around with each other. Find out what each other likes. Trying different things will help build trust and make you feel more relaxed.

Before you have sex try giving each other a massage or try lots of foreplay!

Good luck babe

xxx

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A female reader, superrrshawna United States +, writes (25 March 2009):

superrrshawna agony auntOh God, story of my life.

I haven't had sex with someone in the longest time, and I feel the exact same way. It's like you're a virgin all over again, and all the same worries come up!

Just explain to the special someone how you feel, that you're nervous, that you haven't been with anyone for a while.

If they're as special as you claim, they'll understand, maybe even think it's cute, and will do their best to ease you back into things.

Good luck!

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