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writes:Hi. i really like this lad and i am falling really hard for him. i used to be with him but i had to end it because a lot was goin on at the time and i felt meen on him if i didnt see him and things. i still really liked him but then about a month or two after he got with another girl. i am really good mates with the lad and i am always with him and we both trust each other more than anything. his girlfriend hates me and has threatened me before. me and the lad didnt talk for like a week because of this but he talked to me one night and said he has been having no sleep (wich neither had i) and that he really missed me and trusts me more than anyone (even his girlfriend) and wants everything to be back the way it was. i get a few signs of him that he likes me but then i realise he cant because he has a girlfriend. he has just come back of holiday and is hardly speaking to me now and i dont know why. i don't know what to do anymore because i am gettin really depressed and constantly upset over it all. my mum says i can love at this age and that it really seems like i have do you think i could of? can you help me at all pleaseee thank you xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni haven't talked to the guy in like a month now and before that i had spoke to him everyday for over 6 months.
i hadn't talked to him about it like you said because i thpought i was getting over him but then wen i thought i found a guy that was an option i just fell in love with him again thinking he is perfect. i dnt no what to do anymoree its soo frustratin! i really hate this guy now but it seems the more i hate him the more i love him!
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reader, betty backstabber +, writes (10 August 2008):
 unless you tell him the way you feel your never going to solve this situation! i know it seems as though its the hardest thing in the world, but he's your friend and he's also just a human being like anybody else. What's the worst that can happen really sweetie? At least when you tell him you'll know where you stand! If its not meant to be, its not meant to be your only young you'll find someone else straight away! good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 August 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionme and the guy are talking agen noww a we stil mess about with each other n that, but still not as good as before. he is like never on msn nymore so the only way to talk to him is face to face but im scared off gettin rejected even tho i think it would help me try and move on if i did. he lives in the same road as me so we always have to walk home with each other on our own and i find it dead awkward. even if i told him i dnt think he would break up with his g,f coz he is too nicer guy n it would seem bad after everything thats gone on.
i really dontt no what to dooo!
thanks for your help soo farr people but nymore help is gladly welcome please !!!
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reader, betty backstabber +, writes (8 August 2008):
the thing is, this girl that he's with doesn't sound too good anyway especially seen as she threatened you and made you two stop talking for a while when your such good friends. No good girlfriend will care who their boyfriend talks to, because they will trust the person enough to know nothing else is going on, and they definitely will never try to get between their boyfriend and his friends. Friends come first in any situation and if this guys head is screwed on correctly he will know that, and he should seriously start to think about the way he feels for you and what to do about it. I think that you should sit him down and have a heart to heart, just tell him you really need to see him and make sure you get everything out in the open. Or if its easier, send it in an email/over msn, whichever.
I reckon he just got with this girl to try forgetting about you, and your where his true feelings lie but you need to consult him about it before you truly know. Sure this girl might be hurt at first, but she will get over it and i'm sure she'd prefer him to be with you and not cheating on her. She doesn't really sound like the correct person for him anyway as i said.... so don't worry about her and how it will make her feel too much, she's been a bitch to you anyway lol.
it will be fine im sure of it sweetie good luck! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): If he told you he wants everything to be the same again he obviously is upset about it.
He probably isn't speaking to you because he doesn't think you're interested anymore and that it really hurts him so he is ignoring you because he thinks it will stop the pain.
I think you should ask him if he still feels the same way and you should tell him how you feel.
If he doesn't then you should try and find someone else. Maybe someone you share a hobby with at some sort of club.
Good Luck Chuck.xx :)
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