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writes:first of all im sorry this may be long.. okay so i broke up with my ex girlfriend 7 months ago and we was together for 18 months she was my first for everything and since the break up i have been saying to girls i like them and meeting up with the girls i have been talking to and before we broke up i never did anything like that and now i feel like i have changed and i dont know what to do is it me been desperate for a relationship or not im not sure all i know is i am messing with girls minds like saying to loads of them I like them and we should be together and I really need help and ita not fare on them any help please??
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reader, charlton +, writes (19 October 2013):
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (19 October 2013):
You miss being in a relationship. You’re making the classic mistake of thinking that it must be better to be in a relationship than not, so you’re trying to get one from any girl you get on with.
It’s great that you have developed the confidence to communicate your feelings to girls in this way but you’re risking a rebound situation where once the security of having a girlfriend has become the norm again, you’ll realise you’re not in love with that girl.
Develop as wide a social circle as you can and make sure this includes female friends. Spend time with girls on that friendship basis and you’ll get to know them. Then you’ll see if there is anyone you’d really find attractive: physically, emotionally, and whether you’d be compatible. Then ask her on dates, take it slow, and see how it goes.
Spend a bit of time getting to know any girl you think you might like before you go straight in and tell her. It’s clear at the moment you’re not certain that you do like these girls, wait until you are. This means you won’t unintentionally mess anyone around, or make a wrong choice for yourself.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2013): Yes, you are being desperate for a relationship. You miss what you and your girlfriend used to have. Now you're looking for someone to take her place.
Stop telling girls you like them if you're not serious about it. You are out of control; because you're being childish and not acting grownup about breaking up.
Acting crazy isn't the mature way to handle your problems. Girls will tell other girls about you, if you don't treat them right. Then no one will want to go out with you or even be bothered.
It's time to start acting like a man and get it under control.
You haven't changed, you're just acting out. Like a baby throwing a temper tantrum. Stop before you make girls stop liking you.
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