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writes:i've been with my wife for 16 years now and we've been married for just over 7. Just when we were ounger she was very nervous and felt very insercure about being naked in front of me. Shes recently admitted that she still feels the same and gets all nervous when we are totally naked together. All throughout our relationship she has never literally "been naked" with me. Yes in bed and stuff we have but if she sits up or something she always pulls the covers round her and just like i can get out the shower and walk to the bedroom with nothing on she either takes her clothes in or has a towel round her and then keeps it over her while shes getting dressed. She said shes tried to stop feeling this way but can't and doesn't know why. Is there anything i can do to help or anything i or we could do to sort of get her to be naked and comfotable in front of me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2010): she likes to se him nude so what the big deal that he would love to see her nude
i would love it if my wife went nude in the house all the time i think that she is beautiful and being nude is ok
the good lord did bring us in to the world nude and i think nothing wrong with it as long as its just you two
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): Samutsen, you ask why this is an essential matter. The man who posted does not necessarily want to change the situation for his own pleasure, for his own interest. A woman that after so many years keeps a towel on while getting dressed.....may feel not totally free during lovemaking. That may reduce the sensations, the pleasure. Seeing this from this point of view, a change would be necessary for her good especially, not necessarily the husband's. A change so that she can feel intensly and FREELY, without constrains of any type. The pleasure is surely intensified if not maximised when you feel free. I'm sure teh lady doesn't feel free, actually completely free, even during the intimate moments. Therefore, I find Sandman's advice excellent and very appropriate. Good luck to the poster. And all the best to all of you.
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reader, jm81690  +, writes (17 December 2007):
 I'd suggest constantly reminding her and treating her like she beautiful, she's just self conscience is all.
If you've been together for 16 years though I'm assuming you've probably told her how good looking she is countless times by now though eh?
If you've told her you're perfectly Ok with the way she looks, but she still gets too nervous to go full monty, just forget it.
If after 16 years she hasn't budged at all, the odds are she idn't going to anytime soon man.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (17 December 2007):
 Why? She feels comfortable this way and let her be this way.
It is OK. It is like, we are comfortable at the beach half naked but not at home. She is ok being naked in bed while making love but when in normal situations she wants to be decent? I very much respect her being this way, and truly I do not understand why you insist.
In my book, by being this way, she earns my respect by exhibiting a sense of decency even in front of her husband.
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reader, Sandman  +, writes (17 December 2007):
 It sounds like she is self conscience. You might have, but have you ever told her how beautiful she is? Have you ever told her that you think she's very beautiful naked (even though you may have only caught a glimpse or two)? Constantly inundating her with compliments and such will maybe get her to allow herself to feel like she is beautiful - and can let down the wall (or towel) that covers her from the world and you.
It's not going to happen over night. Maybe you can ease her into it. Maybe one day or week get her to stay in your presence with just her underwear on. You can tell her how beautiful she looks - how she makes you feel. Shower her with compliments. Then maybe the next day or week she can take off her bra or something and stay in your presence. Again, revel in her beauty and continue to shower her with compliments. Then maybe the next day or week she can take off her underwear and again you give her the best compliments you can give her. Try not to focus too much on her vagina and breasts as she might take this as you're only interested in her naked body for sex. Instead, focus on 'her' as an entire package that you love to unwrap and love to see. Maybe try taking a shower together - naked. Wash her body - telling her all the things you like about the body part you happen to be washing - taking care to wash all her body parts and compliment each body part individually.
Maybe by doing this she can start to see the beauty in herself and will see the things you see. Then maybe she won't be so embarrassed when removing her clothes in front of you because she knows you love it - so should she!
Hope this helps.
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