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writes:Lately I have been very depressed. I move to the US for college six months ago, I've been in a LDR since then. I haven't really made much friends since i moved here, people are just very different and not that open compared to the people in my country. I miss my family, I miss my boyfriend and I miss my friends.I'm starting to feel like none of this is worth it, my dream since I was 11 years old was to study abroad and become successful but the field I'm studying is very competitive (fashion photography) and the chances of becoming a well-known artist are extremely low. I'm scared of failing and as a result of that losing everything I had back in my country. I don't know what to do. I feel like I don't have the talent, creativity and personality to succeed and I feel like all of this will be for nothing and I'll end up being left by my bf and just moving back to my country having not succeeded and feeling ashamed of myself...
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reader, Plumb  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 Yout not a failure, when your in the artisitic feild it will and always be hard. Only because of the reason being there are so many that are going for the same thing as you may be. but you shouldnt get down on yourself because of that, if you try hard and really wanna succeed i think you will.
As for your long distance relationship it takes a toll on both ends of the stick, some arent ready to handle being so far away from that special someone while others can deal for quite a while. If he really loves u and you know it then i wouldnt worry one bit.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (5 September 2012):
It's quite normal, you're homesick! Even being in a different town, let alone a different country makes anyone miss home, especially if they haven't been away from home very often in the past.
I'm not sure where you're going to school. I live in California and a lot of schools have groups/clubs for Mexicans/Mexican Americans. Maybe you can try those or for fashion/photography clubs or the newspaper? Are you able to work a part time job in photography? Network and meet people, I know it's overwhelming but you'll be happier if you at least try and meet some people!
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 September 2012):
 Moving to a different country to attend college is indeed a big step. The US is bound to be quite different to Mexico.
But you've only been here six months, which is not much time at all to start to get adjusted.......is there a college dean or counselor you can talk to and see if she has any suggestions to help you. Are there any other students if not from Mexico, at least from another Hispanic country?
Do you attend church normally? If so, maybe you could see if there is one (Catholic?) that has a Hispanic Sunday service. It might offer a chance to meet and talk with people who speak your language.
It's very important to concentrate on your studies and try not to be afraid of failing! You don't sound as if you have a lot of self-confidence - but you don't know what you can achieve unless you try! Anyway, this is another very good reason to speak with your college teacher about your concerns - and even though its not the same, at least if you have a cell phone you can perhaps stay in touch with your family, boyfriend and friends........I know it's not easy - but do your best - don't give up!
Hope this helps. I wish you success and courage.
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