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writes:my friends say im skinny...but i dont think i am.im going to kennywood is june with a guy im practicly in love with and i want to loose weight.for the past three weeks ive been throwing up and starving myself.i know thats not the way to go but my times runing out.but the thing is im getting fatter! what the hell?i dont get it.i dont understand how i can throw up and hardly eat and get fatter.in the stomache area anyway.now my im feeling sick and fat.what am i going to do about this..? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blod  +, writes (18 May 2010):
 What you're describing is an eating disorder, namely bulimia.
The thing is about hardly eating and making yourself is that you actually gain weight, especially for the first few weeks/months. Your body's receiving hardly any food so when you eat something, it holds on to the fat. This means you put more weight on. Fat isn't equally distributed around the body either, which is why you're putting the weight on around your stomach.
What you're doing at the moment is the worst thing you could do to lose weight, so it needs to change urgently! Your body isn't receiving any nutrition so you'll begin to look drained, pale, dull and ill. Your skin will become bad, you'll be constantly tired, you're more likely to become ill and being sick all the time is bad for your teeth. You'll generally start to look and feel worse, and this is all to lose weight..
You clearly have a lack of self confidence. Believe your friends when they tell you you're skinny, because by the sounds of it you are! I'd advise you to see a doctor so that they can help you with your eating, weight and the psychology behind all this. That's the way forward for you.
As for your eating habits, start eating. The best way to lose weight is to eat healthily and exercise. The more you eat, the more calories your body knows there are to burn. Weight loss is always more effective when you eat, which is where you're going wrong!
As for this guy, I'm 100% sure that he'd find you more attractive if you were eating healthily. Stuff how much you weigh. Boys normally don't give a toss. The key is to eat healthily and exercise. You'll look great and you'll be healthy!
k_c100's advise is brilliant. Take note of what she says.
Good luck with everything.
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reader, GettingHelp  +, writes (18 May 2010):
Heya :)I think almost everything has been said by the people before me...*** When you starve your body (by not eating or purging) it gets hungry and stores fat :(*** If you are serious about losing weight then it is a slightly longer process... Try eating 5 smaller, healthy***, balanced meals a day (yes that says 5, five, 5, five) as well as at least 20 - 30 min of cardio a day :)If you are *Hungry (i.e. starving yourself)*Overtired*Feeling ill*Starving your body*Pulling muscles (i.e. overexercising)then you are doing it *WRONG!* :(You can seriously damage your health and your futurethings like*you will struggle to lose weight in the future :( *you could damage your reproductive system :( (no babies!!)*you may never be able to eat certain foods again because of what it does to your body - makes your body want to purge itself :(This is serious, please, please don't do that kind of damage to yourself over a boy who you will probably not end up married to (based on your age) and who will therefore not be in your life forever.I know the pressure we put on ourselves to be slim and trim, but if you don't do it the healthy way you do so much damage to your body and actually make it easier to gain weight, now and later in life. I'm sure you don't want to be a 20-something year old in a few years time who struggles with her weight?Boys prefer healthy girls anyway. Yes the way the anorexic and bulimic ones is perfect, but guys know how much maintenance that is. Who wants to come home to a girl who spent half the day throwing up in your bathroom, or passed out in the shower because she was so hungry, or fainted in the sea and nearly drowned because she starved her body, or fainted on the beach....? Don't so it. Save yourself the trauma.RECOVERY/REHAB from purging/bulimia/anorexia/starving yourself/over-exercising is a b1tch... No-one needs that kind of trouble in their lives... Especially*** if it is over a boy.Please... I would hate to see you do something so terrible to yourself.Please message me, or give feedback. I'm sure we all just want to see you happy, healthy, wealthy and wise :) :)
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (18 May 2010):
 By the sounds of things you are displaying symptoms of bullimia, body dysmorphia and low self esteem.
You cannot deal with this alone, and if you let this continue any longer it will only get worse and the bullimia could end up killing you. Go to your doctor ASAP - they are good at dealing with mental health issues and have a wealth of resources available to you. The doctor themselves wont be able to do much to help but will be able to do an initial assesment and then refer you to a specialist. You should also try googling "eating disorder support groups" in your area, there should be plenty of support out there for you but you need to make the first step by seeking it out.
These websites might help you
http://www.b-eat.co.uk/Home
http://www.equip.nhs.uk/HealthTopics/eating.aspxhttp://www.nhs.uk/conditions/Eating-disorders/Pages/Introduction.aspx
Basically just to explain a little more - hating your body, and feeling fat but knowing everyone else thinks you are "crazy" for feeling this way because they see a slim girl - this is body dysmorphia and no it does not mean you are crazy. What you see in the mirror is not actually representiative of what everyone else sees - you see a fat, horrible body and I'm sure there will be many parts of your body you could list that you absoultely despise. Whereas everyone else sees an attractive, young, slim woman - you simply cannot see this yourself when you look in the mirror. This is not you being "crazy" - this is a recognized mental health disorder where your mind is 'playing tricks' on you basically and distorting reality. Good news is that it can be cured with help from a therapist. Bad news is that in your case, it has already lead on to a more serious problem - an eating disorder.
Throwing up after eating is a clear sign of an eating disorder, bullimia. Now bullimia is different to anorexia - anorexics starve themselves and cannot bear to eat much at all, they have a fear of food almost and find it hard to even eat fruit and vegetables. Whereas bullimia you tend to have the "binge and purge" phases, where you are constantly obsessed by food and your weight, but at the same time you enjoy food and love the taste. So when you finally give in to induldge in food the bullimic feels intense guilt due to the calorific value and fat that they have just consumed, so in order to relieve the guilt, and stop the fat & calories being absorbed they purge the food - through vomiting or laxatives usually.
Both anorexia and bullimia are incredibly serious, however bullimia is often more fatal and has more health impacts due to the nature of purging. With anorexia they are almost always underweight due to the lack of food intake, but with bullimia weight can often remain fairly normal due to the binge/purge cycle. But what is clear here is that you have a very unhealthy attitude towards food and you could well be in the early stages of an eating disorder.
The first step you need to take is realising that you have a problem and you need to genuinely want to get better - not because other people are telling you to, but because YOU want help. Ask yourself this - do you think you have a problem? Do you want to get better? Do you want to have a healthy relationship with food and not feel guilty when eating? Do you want to look in the mirror and feel happy with what you see?
If the answer is yes to all of those then great, you can go to see your doctor and start getting better. But it seems to me that you think this is a normal way to loose weight and you dont seem to care what damage you might be doing to your body. You have to be 100% ready and open to someone helping you otherwise you will just resist any help and wont get any better.
And the reason why you are not getting "thinner" - you probably are already close to your minimum weight if your friends already say you are skinny, so there is nothing left for your body to lose. Throwing up damages the stomach lining because you are being sick so frequently, this could well explain the swelling in the stomach area.
I am really worried about you - I think this is quite serious and you need to see a doctor right away. This guy you love is not going to love a girl who looks like a skeleton and wont eat anything - guys like girls who are relaxed, happy with their bodies and can enjoy a meal together. You will not make yourself more attractive by starving yourself or throwing up - so please try and get help as soon as you can. Tell your parents what you have been doing, and go to the doctors. You could have already seriously damaged your stomach and in many cases of bullimia this is fatal - you must get treatment right away otherwise you could die. I cant stress enough how serious this is and you must get help.
I hope this has helped and feel free to send me a message through the site if you need any more advice.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2010): Your going about it all wrong, by starving yourself you forcing your body into "starve mode" by this i mean your body will store all.any food it gets as fat as a survival mechinisim.
You need to eat a calory controled diet, 3 meals a day (dont skip breakfast, this is the mort important mean, as it will set your body up for the rest of the day).
Stop making yourself sick, if you can. If you cant seek help immediatly, you regionise that this is a bad idea, which is good, so please stop it. Its not healthy for your body or you. You may even find yourself to weak/ill to enjoy the summer that you have been trying to loose weight for.
Simple answer is eat 3 healhy meals a day, and move more. take uprunning or another sport. not only will you feel healther, but you will look heather also.
As i said previously, if you can stop vmiting, please please seek help.
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