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36-40,
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writes:I have been sneaking out of my house and doing bad things. Last weekend me and my friend went to my friends house and stayed the night and said that we were staying at my other friends house. The next morning they called my friends mom, the girl who we said we were staying the night at, and they talked and found out that we werent at her house. Now my mom doesnt trust me at all. Ive snuck out the house before and got caught. I think the reasons why I do all of this stuff if because my mom is an alcoholic and it aggravates me when she drinks so I try not to care about it but it gets to me so I act like I dont care and do whatever I want to get back at her. I dont want to blame all of this stuff on her, but it seems like that. And I cant to her about anything. What should I do?
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reader, Zexion_fan +, writes (24 October 2007):
She may be an alcohilic but shes still your mom and she would die to protect you.alcoholism is a addiction like smoking.and maybe hard to quit.You may think you do those things to try to ignore your moms alcoholsm but the real truth is that you seek attention from her. You may not realize it but that sounds to me what your doing.You may want to tell ur mom that she should drink a little less and maybe focus a bit on you and her relationship.Have a weekend awway together go golfing or swimming somethign to keep your minds off the alcohol and stuff.go get pizza or rent a movie.Just take the time to tell her "I love you mom' Its not that hard.it may be hard to confront her but you could be the only person to stop her drinkng problem.Follow your heart.Its the only one that truley knows what to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2007): I snuck out of the house when I was 12. And I went to meet boys. You sneak out, you're 18-21 years old, to go hang out with your friends? Sounds like you're old enough to do what you want. If it's an issue, move out.
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reader, rcn +, writes (24 October 2007):
 So you think you do whatever you want to get back at her? So when you do this, does she drink more or less? Destructive behavior yourself is enough to make an alcoholic believe they have another reason to drink more.
You need to take responsibility for your actions. How you choose to deal with your mom is really a choice you make. No one can cause you to do anything. I'd do some research and find some counseling for yourself on how to deal with living in this situation. Just because your mom is week now, doesn't mean you have to be week as well.
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 well if you really are 18+ i see no reason you should sneak out of your home. Your a woman now and should have the freedom that comes with it. Do what you want and spend timewith who you want to.
If your mum drinks to much dont ignore it try and get her tohelp herself as problems like these dont disappear if you dont look at them.
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