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writes:My ex girlfriend hit me up and I have been sleeping with my ex for the past 3 months.The funny part of this is that she's had a boyfriend for 6 months prior (now 9 months; who she hasn't slept with at all for the past 3 months)At this moment, she is finally ready to let someone go and having serious thoughts about what to do with her situation.Well, that put me in a serious mood, too and its time to decide what I want to do as well.I have been dealing with a lot of stress, guilt, heart pain because of this situation she put me in and I feel like if she were to choose to stay with him, the only way for me to be at peace and for my mind to be cleared is to tell the poor guy what's been going on. I understand its not something to tell people and it would devastate him a lot, but i don't deserve to have this burden on my chest either, especially since she doesn't want me. Also, it would be the best way for me to LET her Go. I don't think she would come back to me after this and I wouldn't want to go back to her after I do this. Some might think of this as spiteful or vengeful, but I think of it as relinquishing everything that's happened by just coming clean and being completely honest...I feel like its the right thing to do. If I were being cheated on I would definitely want to know. I can't believe how stupid my ex is and how I've been caught in this.What is your advice?Should i tell the innocent, clueless bastard? If not, how can I clear my consciousnesses?!??
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reader, Aunty Abzy  +, writes (10 June 2011):
 It's her place too tell him !
Think about it this way - you might be in love with her and you've only been sleeping with her cos you love her but this other guy isnt going too think like this ! your 'someone who's just been banging his bird' he wont consider how much you like her and he'll no doubt take it out on you !!
Wash your hands of her - she's not a nice person if she's been cheating on her current partner with you !
Leave him in the dark - her guilt conscious will eat away at her and she will be the one thats hurting untill she tell's her current partner whats happening !
Laugh it off mate you dont need a cheating woman in your life, go find someone who loves you and who you love and want too be with !
Good luck with everything xx
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 June 2011):
 Would you tell him if she chose you? Or would you expect HER to tell him?
And either way, you or him, if this is giving you so much guilt and grief, WHY do you continue to sleep with her?
Personally, I would walk away now and never look let, let the clueless bastard be and the ex too.
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