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writes:I started seeing my ex boyfriend in september, we finally tied the knot in october and lasted until may, that was when we both finally had enough. It was a long and hard eight months to get through. All though we've been through alot of ups and downs in our relationship. We were still remotely attached to one another and it was hard to let go. Since the break up, I have never felt happier. I am so glad to have gotten out of a relationship that was emotionally abusive and was completely ruining my self esteem. So, your probably asking what's the problem, right?Well you see in early June, is when my ex boyfriend finally met another girl, and they finally made it offical. During this time, Him and I still remained intimate for a couple weeks, while promising our little secret would never get out. Well being that it's summer, I've had one to many drinks several nights in a row. Each time calling up his girlfriend, leaving nasty messages about him cheating on her with me. Finally my ex boyfriend called me and asked me, why I was lying to her. He kept saying things like, "I am not going to admit something to her that never happened" He is trying to make me look like the fool! I refuse to take the wrap for his mistakes. I wasn't the one who was in a relationship.. He was.What do I do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): This is hilarious! You say that he is trying to make you look like a fool, but you are making yourself look like a fool by phoning her and leaving messages. Sounds like you are a little jealous...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2008): lol well thats really funny but what you need to do is get over him and leave him alone find yourself a new boyfriend so you can forgehet about hom but next time you drink make sure you have someone with you that isnt drunk lol
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reader, Confused and lonely  +, writes (3 August 2008):
I think it is pretty simple. Leave him alone. It does not matter what he thinks or what she thinks. I think that the best thing you can do is move on, leave him alone and dont talk to either of them. Find something to do to keep you busy so that you dont feel the need to bother with either of them. Its not worth your time.
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reader, PsyCookie +, writes (3 August 2008):
 What do you do? The answer is infron of your eyes. YOU know it but don't want to accept it. GET OVER HIM.
What you did wrong here is that you kept a physical relationship with him after you broke up. And how did he respond to that? He went out and got a girlfriend. Now, don't put all the blame on him, the blame is yours here too. You kept on sleeping with him and satisfying him meanwhile he was he could go out and do whatever he wanted since he wasn't bounded to you. Having sex does not mean he still loves you or that you two are still together. So why get mad for him to try to get a girlfriend meanwhile you gave him free sex? He wasn't cheating on you.
Now like I said earlier, GET OVER HIM. If you don't think you're mature enough to keep a relationship with him as friends (and be truthful to this), then just stop any contact with him. Start hobbies or physical activities to get over him. Hang out with other friends or your family.
And the next step is to apologogize to the other girl. Yes this guy was cheating on her with you, but that isn't something to be proud of. You think she was used? HA! He used you as well! You gave him sex while he was with her. Yes, that's power. Now, just apologize, but don't expect for forgivness. Tell her in a very civilized manner what her boyfriend did with you while they were together and apologize for your manner on delivering this news earlier. It will probably be hard for her to believe you (since you acted so immature before), but you have already done your part, so leave it like that and don't get involved again.
Now I hope that your age is wrong for the many reasons that are overly stated before. But if your age is right, I hope you mature up and stop acting like a fool. Good luck
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