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writes:Hi I need help I have been apart from my ex bf for approx a year now but we continued to text and talk after the initial dust had settled, It was the most painful time of my life so far because i truly love him so much, i believe that we should still be together but i dont know how to go about it. the break up was as a resut of misunderstandings, we were both wrong, since then i have been with other people and so has he but nothing has stuck because i feel that he is the one for me and nothing compares to what we had, he continues to text me always being sweet and flirty and i feel that he feels the same way as me but we are both too afraid to bite the bullet and say what we feel, as its the start of a new year i dont want to continue this any longer because i want him back so bad, we live in the same town but wont see each other much unless we make plans to meet up so theres not much of a chance of bumping into each other accidently, what should i do, i know i should just say that i still want to be with him but i suppose i am afraid that i am fooling myself and he doesnt feel the same way, help because i feel that we belong together and i feel so lost without him, please dont tell me to move on because i have tried to move on for the past year but it hasnt worked.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you! just want to provide an update, he has been in very regular contact in the last few days, he has been particularly "friendly" talking about when we were toghether and that kind of thing,being so unbelievably sweet I wanna die, anyway I think he was trying to hint that we should meet, but he put it in a backwards kindof way, I asked him to ask me out properly and he said he wasnt good at these things? Is that a sign that he wants to get back? He then texted again asking could i come over and hang out but i was out with my girlfriends so I said "not tonight another night" when I'm not out, but he seemed to think i was blowing him off...how do I rectify this I txtd him the day after(today) and said i wasnt rejecting him and I thought he'd ask me over agin but he didnt he just said "its fine dont worry about it"? will he ask me agin or will i suggest it, This happened today by the way, Im worried I screwed up? I read over the message i sent him and i suppose to a person that doesnt know what im thinking it might seem a bit short but i didnt mean it to come out that way!! Im gonna crack up im so upset right now.
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reader, chlez83  +, writes (4 January 2008):
Since you guys had been dating i can support that da next time you meet up get flirty with him and see how he reacts and try mantaining eye contact.It tells alot.At this point don't tell him yet,wait for his reaction.Then arrange to meet again.You need to give it some time or he'll know what you up to.Da next time be more agressive but don't sleep with him before you tell him and hear what he has to say.I'm hoping before the 2nd meeting he'll have the brains to say it too.
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you everyone, I think I will have to find a way to tell him that i want him back.. Does anyone have a suggestion? I dont wanna come across as desperate or as if its coming out of nowhere, its not that easy for me to say "by the way i love you and want you back" is there a more subtle way to get the message across? For example when he texts me again it'll prob just be something casual what should i say back? I'd usually just carry on the conversation even though it might get a bit flirty, but im worried if i say something really heavy he might back off.. Thanks again
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reader, chlez83 +, writes (2 January 2008):
I really wish i was your ex.It's really sweet when a lady wants you back and if you truly love her,as a man,you won't hesitate to have her back in your arms.However,either way there's always a risk that your ex may not want the same thing but hey no pain no gain so try your luck.I really wish my ex would think like you.Baby girl do it now or you'll live to regret you never asked him back.
Good luck
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reader, jackie69 +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Just tell him and see what happens!
You didn't realy need anyone to tell you the answer because you already know what to do. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2008): You will never know unless you try. You have taken the time out to try to understand your differences and have also tried dating again. You understand some of the difficulties that you experienced in the relationship so given the chance Im sure you will try to rectify them. What have you got to lose?
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