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writes:Hey there, I'm a 16year old girl and i've been going out with my boyfriend fo rjust over a year. This summer i finished my GCSE's and left to go abroad to boarding school. Me and my boyfriend were together everyday until I left, and just before we left we sat down and had a talk and both decided that we would see how things went. I have only been at boarding school for a week, and already feel i am loosing him. Every night when we talk he sounds distant and so far away. Last night I asked him how the long distance thing was going and he just dismissed it as if it wernt an issue. That realy hurt. To make matters worse, I've become attracted to a guy at my new school, who is a lot like my boyfriend personality wise. I am exteremly confused about my feelings, is it just cos i miss my boyfriend so much? ANyway, the long and short of this is, should I try and make my long distance thing work or what? I dont want to break up with him but on the other hand...All help will be appreciated, I know I don't sound like the most lovely girlfriend here, but i'm just so confused and lonely. I really do miss my boyfriend.Thanks xx
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reader, les  +, writes (14 August 2008):
Hey, I'm going to give you some advice that you probably might not like, but just think about it.You're 16, you're really young and this is a WONDERFUL period in your life. I think that you should be going out with people, and dating different guys and just learning about guys, and relationships and emotions and heartbreaks in general. I realize that you love your boyfriend, but from personal experience, I was "in love" too when I was younger, and then a couple of years later I realized that it wasn't really love and I was just spending time with a guy when I could have been out having so much more fun. So I say, you're young, you have so many years ahead of you, go out with this new guy, if you don't like him, go out with someone else - there is no reason for you to be in a serious relationship at this age. Its not like you're 30 and need to be married in a few years and need to deal with these issues. As for your boyfriend, if it was meant to be, you can pick it up once you go back home. At you're age both guys and girls are changing so quickly that by the time you see him next he might be a different person you might not even like. Just something to think about..
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reader, superrrshawna +, writes (14 August 2008):
 you need to separate your boyfriend from this new guy! obviously you know that they are different people, but you need to maybe make lists as to what you like and dislike about each person. based on the lists, it might make things clearer to you as to who you feel you want to be with.
you might be attracted to the new boy just because they are both your type! now, the question is... do you want to give up what you have to chance it with someone new who might be easier access?
only you can answer that one!
long distance relationships are hard. i wish you all the best!
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