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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:There is this guy at work who seems to eavesdrop on my conversations and recently he's started butting in on my conversations. He had stopped talking to me but now he inserts himself in my conversations. I'll give you a back story:I had a crush on him last year and he knew about it but was very hot and cold. I sensed maybe he liked me too but someone told me about his girlfriend. He never would talk about her but I did bring it up to him once. Fast foward to now and he's engaged and I've been ignoring him because I need to move on. He was very standoffish/rude and weird acting yet he would give me flirty looks and I would not return them seeing as how he's engaged now (which is an open secret at this point).Once when I made a joke to someone he yelled after me in the hallway "WHAT?! WHAT!" and I wasn't talking to him at all. He grinned at me as I walked past and he would not stop smiling at me until I said good morning. Why is he acting like this? Trying to talk to me now and get my attention.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 December 2013):
 He doesn't like that you now ignore him, after having known you liked him BEFORE you found out about the gf/fiancee. So now he just likes to insert himself to get you to pay attention to him.
Rather childish of you ask me.
I would just be overly polite but not talk at all. So say morning and go about your business.
If he yells at you in the hallways FEEL free to ignore that, just keep walking.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 December 2013):
 he's doing it to bug you.... he knows it bugs you and he's doing it to get a rise out of you... clearly he's not very mature...
I would KILL HIM with kindness... overwhelm him. get to work and walk up to him deliberately and say in your sweetest voice "good morning bob (or whatever his name is), it's a lovely day in the neighborhood, I hope you have a great one" SMILE your best smile and walk off.
ONCE he realizes you are not bothered by him being a jerk then he'll stop.
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