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writes:How is it my feelings for this guy disappeared so quickly! The guy who I had liked for two months and used to get butterflies in my stomach over, when we kissed i got that tingle feeling and i was in complete bliss whenever i was around him. He is the only guy who I have ever liked an incredible amount and had those feelings with, it was crazy I had never experienced that with any other guy i've met.We hang out a lot since we have mutual friends and after our friends nagging we needed to go on a real date we did. We went out last week on the friday night and it was different. I found that date made me realise we weren't a good couple together, sure we get along really well have loads in common and there's so much sexual tension between us (we haven't slept together). But putting it into perspective that date just showed that nothing more would come of what we already are, it was a lost cause and I didn't like him as much as I thought.It's weird to think that it was only a week ago yesterday that I had really strong feelings for him and now, well they're gone! I did notice that the day after our date my feelings for him had faded, but even seeing him again today i don't see him in that way anymore. I thought it would have taken me ages to get over him if i had to because i liked him so much, but can someone tell me how did that date change things for me? How do you have strong feelings one week, then none the next??? Reply to this Question
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reader, Scarlettepenelope  +, writes (28 October 2012):
it's normal and happens quite often. actually it happened to me a couple days ago x) this guy who i had a crush on for MONTHS and whom I talk to often online, in class, phone, facebook etc. just didn't seem so great one day. Just one day I realized he does all these little things that bothers me. He itches himself a lot. Sings really off key too too often. he's kind of bossy. I don't know but i realized that I was infatuated with him and really, he's not mr. perfect after all. (I really don't like it when guys itch themselves so much especially when i told him to stop and he kept doing it -.- )
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (28 October 2012):
 It's not weird, it's rational. This is what you have to stop you from developping relationships with teachers, married men, bosses. Some people lack this "stop" mechanism and go ahead with their enslaving passion, which is dangerous. It comes a time when your body has to listen to your head.
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reader, babyzbird +, writes (27 October 2012):
 Hello,
I wouldn't worry too much about it. Two months is really not that long and your feelings changed because you realized your not as compatible as you thought. In other words your feelings changed because you got to know what he is really like instead of what you THOUGHT he was like. It's normal; I even had that happen to me before. I would stay friendly with him but make it clear you are not interested in anything but friendship.
Good Luck!
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (27 October 2012):
It's normal. Infatuation is over and the reason why some people can't ever stay in a relationship.
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