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writes:Why do people say I'm mean because I dont apologize and feel bad when Im wrong? I talk to them after a little while so shouldnt they know Im over it and they should be happy I talk to them again? Why all the drama and stuff? It's stupid. Why they have to have weak emotions? They dont have no backbones. They weak. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 something i learned late in life
saying your sorry when you are wrong is important
saying your sorry even if you think you are right is also important.
"i'm sorry i hurt your feelings" means just that..
does not mean you are weak
does not mean you don't have a backbone.
It means "oops I screwed up"
that's why they make erasers for pencils... because we all make mistakes
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Owning your words and actions is not being weak. Being able to admit you are wrong and apologize (if need be) is not being weak. It's being a decent human being. It's having manners and respect for others.
Keep that attitude and see how many people want to have anything to do with you. I'm willing to bet it's very few.
Also, it's called growing up. Not apologizing is for pissy 3 year old.
An apology doesn't have to be long or sappy, jsut be honest.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): Saying your sorry when you are wrong shows maturity and respect. How can you expect people to respect you if you won't respect them in return. When your wrong it shows great maturity and courage to say that you are sorry when you are wrong. It's a matter of manners and maturity. I am sure that if you are offended or hurt by anyone you would expect them to show you the respect and courtesy of apologizing for hurting you, what goes around comes around, so if you want respect to be given to you, then you should give respect to those people in your life.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Sorry from your grammar and spelling it is hard to really understand what you are asking, but my guess is you are wondering why you should say sorry when you are wrong?
Well, its because you are WRONG!! There is no need to apologize when you are right on something, but when you have made a mistake and have said/done something wrong, then the right thing to do is apologize. If you cannt accept when you are wrong and apologize to someone if it has upset/offended them, then it is a clear sign of your weakness and immaturity.
If you are in the wrong, you should be happy that they are talking to you still, not the other way around! You cannot keep going around getting things wrong, then expecting people to just get over it - if you carry on this way you will lose all your friends and no-one will want to talk to you.
Not many people can ever admit when they are wrong, many people think saying "Sorry I was wrong" is a sign of weakness, when in fact it is a sign of great stregnth and great confidence. People who cant apologise or admit when they are wrong are weak, pathetic cowards who are to self-important to admit that we all have flaws and get things wrong sometimes.
If you want to keep your friends and not offend everyone you meet - then change your attitude, and if you do something wrong or get something wrong then be the bigger person and say sorry. You are the one creating the drama with your bad attitude and being weak by being too much of a coward to accept you have done anything wrong. So if you want the drama and weakness to stop - then you need to change because it is you that has the problem, not everyone else.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2011): Theres such a thing as good manners, if you dont have this then that is why these people are not speaking to you. That is plain rude, and they are showing backbone by showing that they are not putting up with your behaviour because they deserve better. Get over yourself and think of other for a change.
You wont get far in life without manners.
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reader, Jac2b55  +, writes (31 May 2011):
 Being able to admit your mistakes and apologise is an important way of earning the respect of others.
Others may feel annoyed because not only are you not mature enough to admit when you are wrong, but you also then dont talk to them???
I think that perhaps they find you arrogant as you would come across as though you think you are better than them and too important to apologise.
I would suggest that if you are wrong about something and it affects another, then say sorry! You may find that they accept you apology, forgive you and move on.
You can be right all the time and have no friends, or accept when you are wrong and have plenty!
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