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writes:i'm in 11th grade and at my school there is this teacher who doesn't even teach me but he acts really wierd with me. Hes like the strictest teacher in the school to everyone but me. Once he took a photo of me and started going on about how much he LIKED it, i mean it was just a pic of me playing with my hair. Another time i was in his room for some reason and he just came out with 'fancy a job rosa' and winked at me, then a few days later he was shouting at some kids and came up to me after and said 'i'm not mean, well i'm not mean to you because i know you like and i'm nice to you, you've seen my nice side ' and winked at me yet again. Whenever i walk past he has to have some degree of eye contact with me and whenever i talk to him he always touches me on the arm or shoulder. Its only me hes like this with, why am i been singled out like this? I mean its so offputting when he stares at me and I really don't want to cause trouble for anyone if hes just been friendly and this is normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): This is totally unnacceptable. You never know because he could just be being friendly, but if it were me, i would go straight to my parent/guardian and tell them. They would contact the school and if he continues to annoy you, persist confidentially.This isn't acceptable, he shouldn't be allowed to do that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2007): By your own words, this isn't normal. There is something wrong with him in that he perceives all other students lesser than equals and ill treats them but grants you special favour.
I'm with Eyes...speak to your parents and Principle immediately.
Take care Kiddo.
And I wouldn't want this man's special favour, the spider senses are going off like mad. *bats at all the red flags in her vision*
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (20 February 2007):
 You PLAN on talking to the Principal? Why on earth haven't you done so yet?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2007): original poster- yes i do plan on speaking to the principle thankyou. Eyeswideopen i came on here for advice not to be verbally attacked and called a liar. You know cannot possibly call it a fantasy, i mean to be honest i do not get my kicks making up stories about 30+ year old men flirting with me, you know nothing of me and cannot possibly know whether i am lying or not. My advice to you: if you are going to critcise questions and call people liars don't even bother wasting your energies typing out an answer.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (19 February 2007):
So are you going to speak to the principal, your parents, or what? If you don't plan on doing that then I guess it's just a teenage fantasy you are having.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2007): hi its the original poster- i tell you he's not like this with anyone else, EVERYONE says he is really mean and just plain nasty, i mean he blatantly insults people. Even a member of staff who was present when he said the stuff about been nice commented it was only me he was nice to. So i don't know why its me thats so special for some reason. I'm not particualarly good looking and don't exactly burst with peronality also its not to do with been academic as he doesn't teach me and doesn't even know my grades
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reader, dollparts  +, writes (14 February 2007):
 Hun
Listen to the little vocie in your head...
this guy sounds like a total creep, I really don't think it's normal for a teacher to be like that
you should ask around, see if he has ever done this to any one else you know?
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (13 February 2007):
 Hello,
I believe you, I had a creepy teacher when I was your age too! You are smart to pay attention to your intuition - it is there to tell you something is not quite right. Don't put yourself in any situation where you are alone with this guy. He may well be innocent and simply trying to bolster your self-confidence (if you are quiet and stick to yourself). Maybe he does simply want to befriend you - But the way you described how uncomfortable he is making you feel - that's not cool. For now I would just confide in my Mom - he hasn't actually done anything that he should lose his job over (I'd hate to live in a world where you couldn't put a hand on a shoulder in comfort!). Adult teachers should know how to behave around their students without making them feel uncomfortable. You might want to ask other girls at school if he does this to them too, it might be a pattern that does need watching. You might want keep a journal of any odd behaviour (dates and issues). That way if you and your Mom feel you should talk to the school, you'll have everything written down. Keep listening to that "Spider-Sense".
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 February 2007):
If what you say is really true, sorry but some of it doesn't have the ring of truth to it, then by all means talk to your parents, school counselor, and/ principal. But if this is a school girl fantasy...well you can't really report that now can you?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (13 February 2007):
 I think this teacher has got a thing foy you bigtime. He is treating you diferently to other students, giving you eye contact, taking pictures of you ect.
This is so so wrong, and its obviously making you feel uncomfortably otherwise you woulden't be writing on here.
I think you should tell the headmaster for a start, and also tell your Mum and Dad also.
In the meantime don't reciprocate his frirting in anyway as he will take this as a green light.
good luck x
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (13 February 2007):
 He sounds like a creep to me. I'd tell your parents and principal about his behavior. It sounds like he's flirting with you. He may think he's being funny or cute, but he is a little too close for comfort. He shouldn't be touching you. Period.
Have a pow wow with the principal and your parents. The principal will let the teacher know that you and your family mean business and the flirting should stop.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): This is not normal behaviour from a teacher. Tell the headteacher about this before it gets even worse.
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reader, Jendorset +, writes (13 February 2007):
No its not normal. Perhaps you should tell your head master (princible), that this guy is freaking you out. Its better if you do as he may have done this (or worse) to other girls. Message me if you need help with this or want to talk more. But no this really is not normal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2007): it seriously sounds to me like he's got the hots for you. he at least must have a soft spot for you, after all its not that unusual for older men to be attracted to teenage girls. i once had a similar experience as you, with a male teacher and like your situation, he wasnt one of my teachers, but he was always looking at me, eye contact etc and once he was kind of staring at me and it freaked me out, but i never flirted back, my advice to you would be DONT flirt back with him, you never know what he might do if you give him the wrong idea, so just be careful how you respond to his behaviour. and anyway, although i guess its ok if hes attracted to you, but as a teacher, and you being a student he really shouldnt be behaving so flirtatious with you, if his behaviour gets weirder you maybe should tell someone
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