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writes:I was going out with a guy and everything seemed so perfect. He looked happy with me. One day he told me that he was divorced. I didn't freak out because I understand it happens but what really happened was that he was married. His wife called me. He left me and although he said he didn't want to be with her, they are currently together. I don't understand why he lied to me, I know I should forget about him but its so difficult. I need advice
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reader, Another Alice in Wonderland  +, writes (23 June 2010):
 "Sex"!..Plain and simple! Thats all the relationship was about...and yes, it hurts. But u will get over him...in time. The years go by but the stories never change. "My wife doesnt understand me".."We are not intimate anymore".."I have to stay in the marriage because of the kids".."Our marriage was over a long time ago"... Blah, blah, blah....! They want their bread buttered on both sides...wife for convenience sake and mistress for that bit of excitement {sex} on the side. Stay away from married men...the relationship will go absolutely nowhere...and they don't leave their wives.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (22 June 2010):
You've learnt one of the most valuable lessons you ever could have. Married men never leave their wives, or when they do leave for the mistress, it goes on to break down. It's a painful one, but you'll now understand more about men that most other woman. He lied because he wanted to have sex with you. That's it. Work through this, get over him and throw yourself into your own life. You'll get over him and meet a far better man.
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reader, busy04 +, writes (22 June 2010):
 The best thing is to move on with your life...
One of the most common things for a married man to do while he's cheating is to lie. It doesn't make it right & I'm very sorry that you were wronged in this, but that's how they operate. We will never understand why. But now that you know the truth, let it be a lesson. Learn from it, grow from it & honey get over it. No man like that is worth your thoughts, and he isn't the only man in the world. There is someone out there who will be JUST FOR YOU & will treat you how you should and want to be treated. You're young, vibrant & you have a long life to live, don't spend it on that jerk of a man.
Get out & go girl! Live your life and be happy with it. If you're in school, finish it, find a career or a hobby that you love & enjoy being you. This is not the end, but it can be a beginning to a brand new you :)
Good luck to ya!
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