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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:hello.So my girlfriend and I are having a rocky situation at the momment and its driving me mad.Through our relationship, we have fought a lot, and she has cheated on me often. That has stopped now and were trying to move on. Lately it feels like she can do no wrong, and Im sick of it.We both have different friends and Ive become close to my brother. Basically we spend everyday together, and she expects me to come to her house, but then somedays without notice she makes plans and I am not invited, I get mad but I dont express this, and when I make plans in advance she gets mad at me, because she doesnt like my friends. A few weekends ago my brother invited me to a club with him and his fiance, my brother is very protective over me so I thought this would be no big deal, it was awful, eventually she made me promise i would go, then the next day told me she was talking to her ex all night because i went out. I feel paranoid all the time, and today when I wanted some me time, i went to go get a few things from the store she called me and asked me to come back, I didnt want to but I did, then we both went back to the place I was orignally. We then decided to eat, and someone she just met came in and I didnt ask her but I said I dont want him sitting with us, I was already upset that she invited another friend. So he came and sat down, and I ignored him completely I dont know this guy and she only met him once for twenty minutes, early I had called him a fag, because her and I were fighting, but the thing is she went and told him this, and I dont understand why she does that, after four years she tells her friends everything I think about them, things I say to her in private which is driving me crazy. She and I got into a fight after this and she told me I was being stupid amongst other things. Now she wants to take a break but I dont want to, I want to work things out but I dont know how, when its always about what she wants or how she feels.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2010): She sounds controlling and immature. I know you want to salvage this relationship, but if she doesn't even keep the things you tell her in private to herself and blabs to her friends, then this might be a lost cause, my friend. It sounds like she doesn't trust you, probably because she herself is doing some shady business on the side, and her guilt makes her project her feelings into jealousy over you going out with your friends. My advice is to accept the break, if that's what she truly wants, and just be very cool about the whole thing. If things don't work out, everything will still be ok. Just don't let her play those mind control games on you. She doesn't need to spend the night on the phone with her ex just because you went out. What kind of BS is that?
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