A
female
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:My b/f and I have been together for a little over 3 years, we were best friends before that. When we first got together my b/f had lost his job of 8yrs and was in a real slump (emotionally at first, then financially). Me being the person I am tried to be there for him, as his G/f and best friend. Which is what I was supposed to do. Our first year living together was hard, suppose it was the getting to know each other in a new way type of hard. Then I started to notice that when we had sex his erections would just go away! then I found out that he was masturbating to porn! which really hurt me considering I had tried to talk to him about the sex problem, all he would say was it will work itself out! Needless to say we would go 2 and 3 months without any sexual relations what so ever. But he still had his porn! *which he hid*.. To make this sad but true story shorter.. I ended up cheating on him with an ex boyfried. He found out and I was tired of lieing about it..So I came clean and told him the whole truth.. But before you start to take sides. I went thru his phone records and found a number (female) ask him who it was, I was told it was a insurance claim adjuster... (4 months later) I called this so called claims adjuster, and guess what he met her on the internet personals.. told her he wasn't happy being here, etc.. you know how this story goes! So I confronted him he says nothing happened, blah blah blah.... Here's the kicker, HE told me that He didn't want this thrown up in his face.. OK FINE... oh and now that he knows the truth about my cheating I HEAR IT ALL THE TIME, EVERYDAY... we can be arguing over sand paper and he will throw that in it.. ALL arguments involve that one f88k up that I made... Well what about the the his screws up before I EVEN CHEATED? All that is suppose to go away but soon as he finds out his woman made a mistake its all hell is about to start? For a year and 1/2 I supported him financially and emotionally... My credit went to hell in a handbasket because I didn't make enough to support 3 people. and now that he's got a damn good job, he has the nerve to tell me that he needs to see receipts that I paid things? WHAT THE F88K? He locks his computer but gets mad if I lock mine? Says that he locks his because I go thru it..HELL yea I go thru it! He can have access to my voice mail but I can't his, He says I will call and embarrass him! Please just tell me what to do..... AM I wrong for being mad over this? His double standards are not fair!NASHVILLE, TN
View related questions:
best friend, erection, lost his job, porn, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, rcn +, writes (20 October 2007):
 I thought relationships are to be made of trust. This one sounds like it's 100% distrust. I could just see the two of you waiting for the other one to leave so you can snoop and see what they've been up for the 3 hours since the last time you checked.
Let me tell you, you didn't end up cheating on him. You chose to cheat. Just as choosing where to eat, whether you want soup or salad. Nothing leads up to cheating, but it's the one choice that destroys so many relationships they are generally never the same as before the choice was made.
No, double standards are not right. Your whole relationship sounds like one circus after another. You both have a lot to work on or it's more than likely not going to last.
A
female
reader, Lila +, writes (20 October 2007):
 From your post he's a selfish porn addicted loser with no goals,ambition,or love for you.The only real mistake you ever made was supporting him and/or ever getting with him in the first place.Kick him out,call his Mom and ask her is she has a room for him to jerk off in because you are tiered of sticky towels.Best of luck.
...............................
|
