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female
age
41-50,
*heepingly
writes:I am female, I'm 28. I take martial arts classes. Over the past few months I've been at the dojo/school...I've noticed that my sensei/instructor has been hitting on me more and more as time progresses. He will do things like:- Put his arm around my shoulder- Put his hands on my shoulders- He'll tease and pick on me in a funny way- Give me little nicknames- He always tries to be my partner during practice drills and technique drills.- He's taken me by the hand to a free space in the dojo to practice on techniques- During a private practice session he's said something like "Am I keeping you from something? Am I keeping you from your boyfriend? Do you have any plans later?"- He's gushed and raved about me a couple of times - During a practice wrestling session, he was my practice partner and he tugged me by my martial arts gi/uniform belt when he was ready to start.- He kept offering to help me tie my belt when i first got my uniform- When I had a small pulled calf muscle, he massaged it, didn't even ask if it was okay.- He's let me teach the new students once.- He's overly concerned whenever I get injured.The weirdest part I rarely ever see him act like this around others. I don't know what to think but this whole thing is eating me up inside and I want to tell him that I am starting to like him.Only down side I think he's married to this one lady who works at the dojo as the secretary. I can't be sure but I am 50% positive.What do I say to him?
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reader, sheepingly +, writes (19 October 2007):
sheepingly is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI do like the attention. I just don't know hwat to do because I do like him and I do have an interest in him. But these past 6 months of not saying anything while he "flirts" or does whatever you call it has been agony. I want to tell him that I'm starting to like him but I am afraid it won't turn out well.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Hi there,
Well you didn't say whether or not you liked him. If you're not interested or he's making you uncomfortable with the extra attention, you should think about switching martial arts schools. Find a new teacher, perhaps a woman.
If you like the attention, well... during these "private sessions" you should bring it up. Ask him if he'd like to make plans for later.
It sounds like you're not terribly thrilled with the situation, so I think you should either tell him that you don't need any extra help and that he should pay more attention to other students, or switch schools.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): just hint questions like- so do ya fancy anyone lately anyone i know??
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