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writes:Ok, so here's my problem, and I'm sorry about the length but this is a problem on so many different levels and I'm just so confused.Theres this guy who I work with who I have fancied for the last month or so. We work quite closely and we have always had a laugh and got on with eachother, however I've never made a move because I knew he had a girlfriend who he has been with for a while and who he is about to start renting a house with. The other ngiht we were at a work party, and at the end he offered to walk me to my train station but when we arrived, my train wasn't for another hour so he offered to buy me a drink and wait with me. I thought this was nice of him so we went to a local bar and had a couple of glasses of wine. We had a really in depth talk about a lot of things, our careers, our families, our backgrounds etc and he was slowly getting closer and closer to me. He got up to go to go to the bar again and then on his way back he put his fingers in my hair and flirtily ruffles my hair up a bit. He sits back down and we chat more and then suddenly he leans in and kisses me. Because I fancy him my immiediate reaction was to kiss back, but after about 5 seconds I stopped and told him he had a girlfriend . He then said sorry and said it was so embarrassing and we never spoke about it again. He texted me the following morning apologising for his innapropriate conduct and said it wouldnt happen again. Not only is this going to make things awkward between us because we work so closely, but it's also difficult for me because all of a sudden months of supressing a pretty big crush on him have all of a sudden by restarted thanks to this kiss. This is the second time he has kissed me, though the first time it was more of a friendly kiss on the lips but I could tell he was wanting to kiss me more from looking in his eyes. This was really quite passionate though. I dont know what to do. I feel so awkward. The worst thing is, I'm the one who was the "good cop" - I stopped the kiss. I think he would have carried on. And Im terrified his girlfriend finds out and thinks I'm some kind of home wrecker when really I've done nothing wrong. He kissed me!The other problem is, that the following morning I confided in a very close male friend of mine about what had happened. I got half way through telling him, and he was like "let me", guess, you two ended up kissing?". Apparently it was really obvious to everyone at work that this guy fancies me, which just worries me even more incase people start to think I was the one leading him along and I get a reputation. I've tried to keep my distance from him and have never made a move.What do I do? I'm so confused.
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reader, sweetheart03  +, writes (4 May 2008):
Well him kissing you two times when he has a girl tells you what kinda guy he is. And what he would do if you guys were together! He made the move and shows how he has no controll. There serious and I'm sure he loves her if the moving in together! But just stay away cause you don't wanna be apart of that drama if she finds out.
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