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writes: I have been in a relationship for 4 years I have never loved anyone more. When we first saw each other it was an instant attraction, something you would read about in a fantasy. She was already in a relationship with someone and had a child with him. she could not keep the baby because he had left her at 8 months pregnant. I guess after the baby was out of the picture they got back together but she would still come to see me late at night and we would sneak of to do our thing.He would show up at my place looking for her, she would tell him that she was hanging out with my sister. Soon after He moved away and she was finally mine. for about 2 months we were happy she wanted every second she could get with me, staying at my place for days never even seeing anyone else. I wanted to show her off so I invited my best friend to come hang out it was amazing having the woman I love and my best friend close to me. A little while after I was moving and one of my sisters friends was helping out and we decided to have a drink when it was all done , my girlfriend came over shortly after and got upset that I was having a drink with someone else and left. Only about a week later after she had come back and I had apologized and explained that it was just a drink did I find out that she had gone to my best friends house and had slept with him. She later told me that she was sorry and sh had only done it because she thought she was losing me and was just trying to hold onto a part of me even if it was my best friend.We have been together for 3 years or so since. and it has happened again and again. each time she starts putting on the tears always saying that she love me and there is no one else. She kisses me still and we are really close. Now she is running off when I am working at midnight to some guys house and stays there till 6 or 7 in the morning. Screaming at me for falling asleep. Dose she love me or is she just using me and making me look like a fool. Please Help I cant stay in this state for much longer.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2008): Oh, my goodness, she must be really something to look at, because you can't see your reflection in her eyes they are so full of sh---t! She is not a pretty person, she is ugly on the inside and she is a weak sister....no impulse control, no common sense and she uses sex to numb her from the troubled life she leads, having a kid and living with a guy like you whose idea of a healthy relationship is to stay holed up for days having sex at his place and tickled pink that she has seen no other live human in those days in between....seriously, you have some issues yourself about what constitutes a great relationship, why would you put up with this lying whore?
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 OH dear, time for you to wake up and see this cheating woman for what and who she is.
You met her amid lies, cheating and unfaithfullness and yet you expected her to change these traits for you, well she hasnt and never will.
You ask if she loves you, well of course she doesnt, no one would treat the one they loved like that, no one!!
You ask if she is taking you for a fool, well read what you have wrote and the answer is staring you in the face, of course she is taking you for a fool, one that lets her get away with her antics time and time again.
She does not respect you and at the moment you dont even respect you, so start sorting out your life and ditch the bitch.
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reader, dearkelja  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 I don't think she knows how to be in a committed relationship to be honest. Think about the fact that she cheated with you on her previous boyfriend. Her short life has a pattern of sexual betrayal to the man she is with. Somehow, she never got the faithful chip. She may well love you but you need to decide if you can put up with this behavior or not. She probably will continue on in this way. If you leave her, she will find someone else and she will be unfaithful to him as well.
No-one can tell you what to do, it's just a matter of what you can tolerate. No one can tell you if she loves you except her. But as the Patti Smyth song goes "sometimes love just ain't enough."
Good luck to you.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (4 May 2008):
 I am pretty sure you should let her go her own way.
I had never heard an excuse such as "I slept with your friend because I thought I was losing you and wanted to hold onto a "part" of you". Yeah, right. To remember ME, she would grab THAT PARTICULAR PART of ANOTHER man.
I suppose that these days she goes to that other guy's home because she wouldn't want to sleep in that bed all by herself. The other guy just keeps her company. Yeah, right.
I had never heard this outrageus excuses. Don't waste another minute with her.
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