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36-40,
*tacy ochuko
writes:i love my boyfriend but i don't think he loves me? he doesn't notice me and its like am invisible.i buy all the gifts,he demands a lot and he makes a scene when am unable to provide for him but yet i get noting in return.when i complain on how i feel is like am clown to him.then he keeps saying "you know i love you and if i have i will buy you the world".that's crap.i do every thing for him yet he doesn't appreciate me.i need advise on what to do
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (5 May 2010):
You've become his doormat. No offence there, but you really have. There is nothing wrong with being nice to people, and noting wrong in caring for your partner. But your partner must care about you too. And your boyfriend really doesn't care. He's too immature to be a boyfriend, and really you would be better moving on.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 He has taken you for granted .When you are there for him , he does not know how to appreciate you .He will treat you like a door mat.
Don't be his doormat or a martyr.
Unless he puts in more commitment in this relationship, you will stay put and do not buy gifts for him or do things for him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2010): Its pretty obvious what to do here! You remind me of the unpopular kids in school who do anything to get noticed. No matter how badly the cool kids treat you...you keep running back for more. In this case, I believe that its your responsibility to make sure that you are well treated and if you stay with this guy, then be prepared for more exploitation.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 May 2010):
 I don't think you really want advice- I think you would like to be reassured,you would like someone to tell you , " don't worry, it's ok, he does love you deep down ". I am sorry but personally I can't provide you with this kind of reassurance, I think that talk is cheap ,it's very easy to say "I love you " but then you have to back it up with actions and your boyfriend is not doing it at all. In fact, I am also concerned about the gift part and he being demanding in terms of material things. That's a very bad thing, if we don't want to think that he is just heartlessy exploting you, at the very least he is spoiled and self centered. The only advice I can give you is to leave him with no regret5s.
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