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*gonyinboston
writes:So I met this great lady 1 year ago through work and we have been in touch every so often. Recently I have asked her a few times to see if she would go on a trip with me which she has done (to celebrate a new car) but she made it clear that she likes to keep business and private life seperate. Even though on another outing we naturally kept hugging each other and caressing the other person. She told me that she really enjoys how gentle I am and how much attention I pay to her. I am totally head over heals with her and can not stop thinking about her She is very smart, attractive and overall just a wonderful person. She travels a lot for business and we usually stay in touch by email text (sometimes 10-20 mails a day) but in teh last few days she has been very cold and unresponsive. Today we were going to go on another trip and she tottaly ignored my email and phone calls. I really dislike how much "control" she already has over me. I know she is a workoholic, but I am just suffering not hearing from herWhat should I do? Should I be open and tell her that this hurts me? She knows I am serious about this relationshipThanks for any advice
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reader, agonyinboston +, writes (20 June 2009):
agonyinboston is verified as being by the original poster of the questionok here is an update
apparently she was plain exhausted worked late and sent me a sweet text later
Yes I agree I think she wanted to keep things clean, but we both were a bit like (love) attraction at first sight...
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reader, lionelhutz +, writes (20 June 2009):
While you may have had a connection at times, she clearly is keeping business and personal separate as she indicated. Don't try to push it in the direction you want. As you said you are already under her "control." I know what you mean. Exactly what you mean. She may be the greatest woman in the world and the one you are meant to spend your life with. But you are already giving your power away. You could almost say you are placing the burden of your happiness on her. Get out of that now!!I'm not saying ignore her or play games, but if you give in now and tell her or act as if she's the most important thing in your life, nothing will change things might even get worse. If she doesn't want to talk to you, fine. Wait. Be patient. And when you do see her, be honest with her. I think you need to find out now what type of, if any, relationship you have with her so you can both be on the same page. The sooner you do it, the better. And if it's not meant to be, move on. Best of luck.
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reader, agonyinboston +, writes (20 June 2009):
agonyinboston is verified as being by the original poster of the questionsee she is not like that....
she has been solo for over a year even though she is superhot and clearly had many opportunities. She does not actually work with me, but she is a vendor we use.
She is very sincere and thinks I am "crazy" for wanting to be with her even though I barely know her. But I agree she is playing the cards right now...
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (20 June 2009):
Well I think she already told you that she wants to keep her business life and personal life separate. I don't think you should be open with her and tell her your feelings, especially when she's being unresponsive. Ignore her back. I know you're probably beyond game playing, but it will hurt more if you put your feelings out there and she's still cold and/or unresponsive. Once she sees that you're not paying attention to her, she'll probably come back around. However, she may have found someone and isn't as interested with the attention. Just back off for a bit and see how things go. In the meantime, put yourself out there for other people. Don't worry about someone that won't give you the time of day. Don't let yourself suffer! Be strong! You'll be okay :)
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