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writes:I hope this doesn't confuse you guys on here. It's three of us talking (a girl and two boys). Our mom died when we were four, six, and eight. It's been six years since then and our dad still hasn't started dating yet. We love our dad and that's why we want to see him happy. He doesn't seem completely happy right now and we want to change that.The oldest (me, the girl) has an Math teacher about our dad's age and she was married once and has two kids. But they've been divorced for over three years now and her kids are five and six. I know we shouldn't pressure them or anything, but how do we go about helping this along?
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): It's great that you guys are concerned about your Dad. He must be doing a pretty good job at being a single parent for you to notice that he's not as happy as he could be and for you to want to try to help.
No one here can know what he's thinking, of course. If I were in his shoes, though, I'd want to be totally focussed on the three of you. I would imagine he has his hands pretty full already, since in addition to being a single dad with three kids he must be working full-time to keep you all fed and clothed.
As nice as it can be to be in a relationship, dating can be really stressful. He might not feel he has the energy to try just yet. And he might be concerned that you would think he wasn't honouring your mother's memory if he saw someone else.
I wouldn't advise that you try to play matchmaker. By all means let him know that you would be pleased if he *did* decide to go on a date. But leave the rest up to him.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Maybe you could all three of you write him a letter telling him how you feel, that you want to make sure that he is happy, and that you know it's none of your business and you don't want to pressure him or anything, but that if he's interested, and if it would make his life better to have someone else, and if he is ready to meet other women, there's a math teacher that might be available.
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