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writes:im 15 years old and i have being going out with this 17 yr old boy that i met on the internet we have been going out for almost a yr and he says he has fallen in love with me and and i do love him honestly but we havent met each other in person :S he says all i have to do is say when he can come and see me or when i want to go and see him.i need to be with him just being apart from him when he has so much shit going on and so do i is making it so hard and i really love him. we talk on the phone every night and we are always in contact and we have seen eachother on cam and stuff.i have the money so that i can go and see him but i dont know if i should.im kinda scared of going to a place that i dont know ive always been like that but then again i love him and would do anything for him should i go? or make him come and see me?please help asap.thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for helping me i still havent decided but he is planning on comeing to me in the next few weeks whwn he gets enough money.
but the other day while we were online he said that when he comes hes guna bring me and asked me my ring size and that when do i want him to pop the question i was thinking this boy must be crazy i told him im only 15 and it aint going to be for a while but i really dont see me marrying him but i really wish i did want that as much as he does
what should i do?
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (31 August 2009):
 I know you will not want to hear this, but you have NEVER met this guy. How can you love him? At 15, we all think we are in love. We all think that the boy we are going out with/fantasising about will be "the one" "prince charming" and that we will be together forever in a happy little romantic world. Its the same when teenagers fantasise about popstars/filmstars/tv personalities/sportstars. It is based on hormones and very little else. You may think that this guy is the love of your life, but in 5 years time, he will not be around. You will have moved on, grown up and changed as a person.You do not know his bad habits, the way he lives, his day to day personality. Chatting on the phone and seeing each other on a web cam is not the same as knowing someone in reality. It is very easy to put on a front, and be something else to what you really are. I really hope for your sake, that you have not done anything on webcam, or sent him any kind of sexual photos, because this would be considered an illegal act. You are under 16, so any sort of sexual image would be considered child porn. This would be a very serious criminal offence, as is any type of sexual grooming of a child under 16. The internet is a wonderful and dangerous place in equal measures. Sadly there are many people who use it to do very bad things. Often they will tell sob stories to gain your trust, make you feel sorry for them, and allow them into your life. The point is - you dont know who the bad ones are.I would suggest waiting to meet this guy. You are only 15 years old - anything could happen and you would be powerless to stop it. Wait until you are a bit older. Do your parents actually know you have been talking to this boy? Have they seen him on webcam? Have they chatted to him on the phone? DO they even know he exists? Because if they dont, then you have already created a very bad situation for yourself. If the answer is NO to any of those questions, then you need to address them before you even consider meeting this guy. Be the adult here, show your parents that they can trust you AND him, by being open and honest about what you are doing. If you cannot do that, then you have answered your own question, by the fact that you know what you are doing is wrong and dangerous because you dont want your parents to know about it.IF you still insist on meeting him, then I suggest you take a parent with you. That way if anything does happen, there is someone else who can help to protect you. I know you do not want that, but if this guy is 100% true to his word, then he will not mind one little bit. If he doesnt like the idea, or backs away, then you know that he is not everything he says he is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): ONly if you are sure that he is seventeen, like have you seen him on webcam? (not just still photos) . And yes as you're younger i'd try to make him come to you if i were you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): I met my current boyfriend online when I was young, however I had my mother and a friend present. If you decide to meet him, have a parent or someone older go with you... or don't go because too many scary stories out there regardless of how in love you feel or think you know this guy... you NEVER know for sure. Trust me.
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