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writes:Ok so i went out with this one boy for about year and we deeply fell for each other i loved him alot and he "said" he loved me in which i belived so after a while of getting to know each other very well he decided the relationship was getting old so yeah...he broke up with me... i cried alot and went silent from then on i talked but very little. Also before he broke up with me he said "just remeber i love you" i was speechless and was crying. But now the real problem is it's been year since the breakup and i still love him i went out with his 2 best freinds and i still love him so now he is going out with my freind who i thought she was but not. i really dont know what to do please help!=[
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reader, rcn +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Pull back from him and your 'friend'. I'm sorry I have a problem with friends being with someone their friend was. That's just wrong. It's hard enough getting over someone without seeing someone else in the place you use to be.
'remember i love you' i'm sure you were speechless, but what are you suppose to say to that, i'm sure you thought of a few things you would have liked to say. I would have said "come again, i didn't understand you, there was too much crap pouring out your mouth."
You still loving him has to be difficult. I do feel for you. I still love one of my ex's too, we split 7 years ago. We're still friends and have been, but the way she left, I told her I will always love you, but we just can't be together.
You deserve better. Getting board, what a cop out. Does he expect excitement to just be handed over on a silver platter? I always thought, you want excitement, you create it.
I would separate yourself from both of them, you can't heal and get on with your life the way you need to if your friend is flaunting him to your face. Stay away from them for a while so you can deal with this, without your feeling increasing, and your wondering. You don't need him, you'll get someone who will love you for you, and won't use board as an excuse. I wish you the best, take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): "Remember I love you" ? How touching, as if he was forced to leave. And he said the relation was "getting old" ? Dear, some people are built in this manner, seeking variation and entertainment, some settle down at one point but while they are still "chasing" the novelty, it's no good to be stuck on them. Also it seems you are trying to "get even" dating each other's best friends. Fair right, you're 18. Try and not make an obsession out of this. Also, while you are blindfolded [by yourself] you can't see what is going on around you, the relation has ended but there'll be other. Trust that.
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