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writes:Hey - I'm a schoolkid and I think I have serious self confidence issues about the way I look etc. I have a girlfriend who I really love, its just... She talks to her friends and stuff about who in our year is fit/hot etc, and I kind of get the scraps of her conversations at sleepovers and stuff, so I have a general idea of who she actually thinks is hot. Its just that it makes me SO jealous!! I'm my girlfriends first boyfriend, but I mean, I'm only 15, when I come to going out with other girls that have already had boyfriends (if i ever do, I think im not very good looking, it will just make me even more jealous. I can't explain it. I get so jealous over the guys she thinks are fit even though I'm going out with her! It makes me look like a total prat, as well. Im not confident in my own looks either. I've only had one girlfriend. I had to work so hard to get her to like me, whereas she liked the kid she fancied before me just because of his looks, he hardly ever talked to her. I just feel really ugly right now and... It sounds really pathetic cos I'm a boy! Should I even care?
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reader, drastic knowledge  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 well my perspective on this whole thing is that its not pathetic because your a guy at all being jealious can be hard in a relationship as you feel your every move is watch and judged by your bf and simple it gets on my nevers girls look too but thats besides the point
if you get jealious try and hide it or not take it to far,
it may drive her away and put your relationship in a non so good place so take it easy on
but as for your looks try and spice things up
change your hair and buy some new clothes that make you feel good hit the gym if you want and just do things to make you feel better with your self
good luck
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reader, Emmajane +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Heah, Phil is right. As a girl I can safely say that we fancy guys but that doesn't mean we want to jump them! Also, don't work so hard to get people to like you. If you do, you become someone else and that's not cool. Be yourself. Belive it or not there's a girl out there not far away who'll love you just the way you are, and you'll love her as she is too. Fake it and you'll soon be found out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 September 2007): To put this in perspective, how many times have you been chatting on a street corner with your mates and some piece of hot totty walks past? Did you never remark to them that 'you would'? If not, I'll bet you thought it!
No different with girls except they tend to huddle in groups giggling, whereas boys try to look 'cool'.
Normal behaviour mate!
Phil
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reader, brooke5426 +, writes (26 September 2007):
 it doesnt sound pathetic cos you are a boy! everyone has some level of insecurities. i think you need to tell your girlfriend you dont like her talking about things like that, its disrespectful and hurts your feelings. im sure she wouldnt like it if you were listing all the fit girls in your year!
i never talked to my boyfriend about boys i thought were attractive - even celebrities - because he would get jealous and it made him feel bad. at the very start of the relationship i would occasionally say the odd "oh my days how hot is cristiano ronaldo?" when he insisted on making me watch football but he told me he hated it so i stopped. im sure your girlfriend is the same, she doesnt realise it bothers you and she wont know unless you tell her.
and you need to remember that she is with you. nobody is forcing her to be with you, shes with you because she chooses to be and because she likes you and you obviously have something that other boys she knows dont have
Brooke
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reader, superbunny +, writes (26 September 2007):
 Sugar, welcome to the mind of a teenage girl!
Firstly, there's an expression a friend of mine called "window shopping," you can appreciate who is hot and things without actually going for them - meaning you have nothing to worry about at all! I'm sure you find other girls attractive, it's just girls talk about that kind of thing to each other more than guys do. Everybody does it, it's only natural. But if it's bothering you that much, talk to your girl about it.
Secondly, her ex-boy she chose on his looks is an EX and most likely for a reason. Try not to worry about him too much, she's with you now.
Everyone is gorgeous in their own right, and I mean everyone. Don't forget that. :] Hope this has helped - if you wanna talk more message me. x
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