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writes:Hi :)In December of 2010, the boy I liked asked me out. He wasn't my first boyfriend but he was in a way. My first boyfriend was in 5th grade and we dated for 5 hours. My second boyfriend was also in 5th grade but we only dated for 2 days. And my 3rd boyfriend was in 6th grade but it was long distance because he moved as soon as we started dating. Anyways, We broke up in March of 2011. I was very upset. He broke up with my the day before I went to San Francisco with my class and on our 3 month anniversary. My whole trip was ruined. But in April we got back together. It was great and I was super happy. I was a grade older than him so I was going off to highschool and he was in 8th. During the summer he wouldn't text back. Finally he did and he told me he didn't like me but didn't want to break up. The next day we broke up and I had clue why and to this day I have no idea. That was the day before I started highschool and on our 8 month anniversary. I lost complete contact with him. I tried to get over him but I couldn't. I cried all the time. It took me 3 months to erase his text messages to me. I read somewhere that it takes about 6 months to get over someone. Well it's been 6 months and I still can't get over him. I randomly think of him and I don't know why. I know it's going to be hard to get over him because he was technically my first boyfriend. Do you have any tips on how to get over him? How do you deal with a break up? Thanks :)
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reader, landomando +, writes (14 February 2012):
I recently broke up with my girlfriend on my one year! I felt like shit and i think of her all the time. She has moved on and I have moved on. I still care about her and would do anything for her. To get over my break up I hung out with alot of friends. Friends help you to not think about her. Im also a freshman in college so I did drink alot and hook up with other girls. I dont recommend that and I am not proud of it at all but it did help me forget about her. I have recently met some really nice girls and do enjoy talking to them. It helps to realise that there are people out there. The world does not end. I dont like to think about this because everyone says it but its true. You just need some time. My good friend told me this and I think it is the best thing I have ever herd! "Fall in love when you are ready, not when you are lonely." Dont rush anything. Dont rush a relationship to feel better. When you are really over him. moved on, you will be over him and ready to start a new relationship. Dont start one when thinking of him. It will never work.Good luck! I think we have all been where you are and know how much pain youve been in. Just give yourself some time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): Your still young and you will get over it and laugh about it soon,I was 16 and had my first boyfriend,I was upset when he broke up with me,took me half a year to accept it but I got there and to be honest he wasn't that special anyway,he just wanted one thing so am glad he broke up with me. Had few other relationships after that,nothing long anyway as they usually broke up with me lol but when I turned 18 i found a great guy and I am 25 now still together. So be prepared to have a few relationships that go wrong or you still might get a guy to leave you,it happens but you learn. You get over your first boyfriend eventually and you move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2012): i know how you feel, it is hard to get over someone, me and my first boyfriend went out for a whole year and he finished with me just before christmas, i still have a little cry about him now, but he is over me so i have to move on. if you think there is no chance of you guys getting better you have to move on too. have to tried talking to other guys or going out with friends often to keep your mind off of him. thinking about him is possible the worst thing ever so if you ever find yourself starting to think of him distract yourself and keep yourself busy, it will be hard at first and getting over someone you had a long relationship with defiantly isn't easy, but if you don't think of him as much and hang out with friends, you'll eventually forget him and move on.
good luck, i hope this helps a little.
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reader, laura021 +, writes (14 February 2012):
Maybe keeping yourself busy will help! Get involved in school activities - sports or whatever you like. If you're busy enough you won't have time to think about him. Also make new friends, boys and girls. Having a text buddy who's a boy may help too, I'm not saying go and start dating if you're not ready, but at least have a friend to talk to that makes you feel special. It can help sometimes. Good luck :)
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reader, Honey Sweet  +, writes (14 February 2012):
 The feeliung is awfull !!!!
i know!
It does neally almost go but theres like a 5 percent that he or she will stay with you and it haumts you x but youve just got to pretend everything is okay and get out there again... x As horrible as it sounds x im not trying to be nasty x
But while youre being sensitive and hurting, the righht person that wont leave you will be around the corner! x
Theres great times eto be had xxx keep it up girlfriend xxxx youll survive x youre a woman! youre stronger than you think you are and youre good to pretend to be x
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