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writes:I have been dating this man for 2 years. I have some suspicion that he's seeing other people. We have both agreed that we would not see other people and this was a serious relationship. I am concerned because he hides his cell, when he's not with me sometimes he won't answer his phone, he has many female friends, I can go on and on. It's like he's leading two seperate lives. When we are together things are fine, but when he leaves all hell breaks loose. What do I do? I've been through a marriage that ended because of a cheating spouse and I don't want to go through the same thing again. Reply to this Question
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reader, Cateyes +, writes (20 March 2007):
 I can understand your fear, however, it sounds like the both of you need to have a heart to heart talk about this. It's not worth playing the spy game, confront him about this. Then, if in the future you should find out he was seeing someone else, then you know not only was he cheating but he was lying to you. I don't really know what the "hell broke loose" is, but...just because he has many friends that are girls, don't panic. I am sure you have many friends that are guys, am I right? Maybe he is being nice in not answering the phone because he wants to spend his time with you, but only YOU will know the answer to that. Personally, being with someone for 2 yrs, I have to admit, it does sound like he is not answering the phone on purpose. First talk and see what comes out of that. I am sorry to hear that you are going through this, because I to have been there. Stay calm until you have all your facts. Good Luck to you and I sincerely mean that!
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (18 March 2007):
 Again, you need to redefine your boundaries with him. Ask him if he has anything to hide from you, if he says no then ask him to hand his phone over. If he says no, you have your answer! Then it's up to you to decide whether to stay with him or walk!
Eve
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