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writes: me and my partner have been together for 4 yrs engaged for 2 yrs. he has a daughter from a previous relationship which is fine and we hav our own little family. recently though he found out he has a son from 10 yrs ago i knew there was a possibility but i can't help feeling that our relationship is always being tested we sem to be drifting apart i dont want to lose him but dont know what t do. we hae tried talkin but we end up arguing our ignoring problems. he says im insecure any help on what to do to rebuild relationship?
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reader, Racky +, writes (31 December 2008):
Racky is verified as being by the original poster of the question the issues where not resolved he decided to leave and is now back with his ex gorlfriend who he has son to
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2008): When there are lots of 'heavy' issues it can be very draining on a relationship - and that's why peple can end up either arguing or ignoring. Obviously you haven't gone into detail here, but it sounds like you are carrying a lot on your own, and not feeling like you can communicate with anyone - most importantly your man. I kind of know what it feels like to feel that there is just drama after drama, trauma after trauma - and it really can take a toll on your own emotional state as well as your relationships. In my case, I finally took the step of seeking counselling - and it has been so beneficial for me personally to have someone I can say stuff 'out loud' to - without the fear of it starting an argument or be hurting feelings etc. I have found it has also helped me to be better at deciding when and how to bring things up - which has had a positive effect on my relationship. Maybe you should think about trying something like this for yourself...what have you got to lose?
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