A
female
age
51-59,
*uttina
writes:HiI have been dating a guy for about 4 wonderful months. we saw each other every other week because he lives 3 hours drive from me and he has custody of his 2 children every other week. He was the one to tell his family and kids even his ex about me and he discussed why nobody Knows about his existance in my life. Because of that i told almost my nearest friends and family. 2 weeks ago he started to act strange and i asked him what was wrong, after hesitating a while he told me that i am a wonderful person and he likes me very much but he wasn't in love with me. I was very calm and i told him that i will respect his decision. After words he asked me if we can keep contacting each other and i agreed, it is because i like this guy very much. I heard he was not doing good so i sent him a text message and asked him how he was. He sent me text message and told me that it was good that he was sick because he got the time to reflect some time for himself and called me afterwards and talked over the phone and told me how wonderful i am etc. we agreed to meet for a coffe sometime. The next day i checked a dating site and found him there. My self was there to check on him because we met there.Can you please help me understand and give me advice of what should i do because i really care about him. i didn't mention that both of us are over 40 years old. Thank you
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reader, tuttina +, writes (9 April 2010):
tuttina is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for replying but i will appreciate to have more advice specially from guys.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 It depends what you want from him.
If you are after a committed ,long term relationship, he is not a good bet. He said it clearly . he likes you but he is not in love with you. Moreover, he's active on a dating site. He is looking around.
Of course you could date him casually, if you wish, while you are waiting for MR. Right. But I am not sure you'd be content with that, and I think eventually the unbalance of feelings between you two would make you suffer more than just calling it quits now.
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