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writes:im in love with a girl for a very long time...we were friends and used to talk but since she found out that im into her, she doesnt interact with me. Instead she interacts with my friends more which is annoying.My friend has become good friends with her and they talk to each other a lot and i am left back like a loser. It annoys me to see her walk and talk with my friends more than me so often...and its awkward.She doesnt like me...and all of these factors frustrate and anger me...and i try to control myself everyday...try to be calm...but i just dont know what to do anymore and how to be around her.I cant get over her for sure...tried that as wellplz help my poor situation...:( Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Maybe she does like you and she is shy or embarrassed, maybe she wants you to make the first move. She is mingling with your friends so she has stayed around. If she didn't like you im sure she would have stayed clear of your group of friends altogether.Don't put yourself down, if you have feelings for her you did right to say. Life is too short. Talk to her when she is on her own, ask her how she feels, why she was distant.Finally don't distance yourself from your group of friends because of a girl. Even if nothing comes of you and her, at least you made your feelings known, you know where you stand and can move on, but don't remove yourself from your group of friends whatever the outcome.All the best.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 "I can't get over her" "I don't know how to be around her" "all these factors frustrate and anger me..."Hmmm, why wouldn't she want to talk to a guy who has been acting like a big baby since he was rejected? Why would she feel uncomfortable talking to you when she doesn't feel the same way for you that you did for her? What motivation does she have to want to talk to you when you're always angry and frustrated with her? How is your anger and frustration manifesting itself in your behavior? Want me to continue, or are you catching on?You're acting like a spoiled brat in my eyes. You didn't get your way and you're sulking and throwing a tantrum. You need to realize that you are incapable of being friends with this girl, but it's not her fault for not liking you back as more than a friend. That happens to every guy at some point in his life, often more than once. Part of being an adult is learning to deal with your emotions, understand what you can and cannot control, and choose the course of action that fits your needs. You're young, so this will take some time and effort, but it will be worth it. You may also want to seek the help of a cousellor to help you learn some coping techniques for dealing with your emotions.
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