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anonymous
writes:Hi can anybody help? my ex and I broke up just over 2 weeks ago, I love him very much and am hurting greatly, all my attempts at making contact were ignored - the first week after we parted and I knew I had to let go, we began chatting online last week and also exchanging a couple text messages a day - not like before though when the contact we shared was morn noon and night, but it gave me hope that maybe we could start over and slowly build bridgesIt is now week 3 and he has yet again began ignoring me and I really do not understand why or what his reasons are so once again I realise I can do very little other than give him space and timeI have asked him if he wants me to move on, which is easier said than done purely to get a handle on how he feels, but he will not respond, which has left me feeling totally confused, any advice would be greatly appreciated
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (6 September 2007):
Who ended the relationship? Him? Or was it something you both agreeed to?
Of course your hurting, thats totaly understandable, but it gets A LOT easier! And it dosnt have to take years like it does for some people either. You could get over this feeling so quickly, you just need the right 'tools' to do it. So dont be afraid of letting go, because it does get better and this feeling of hurt wont always be there.
As for what you're ex bf is playing at...his actions are rathr confusing which could suggest perhaps he himself is confused? Perhaps he did have 2nd doubts at one stage but has come to relaise that ending is the best thing to do in the long run? Hence him ignoring you again.
Perhaps he thought maybe you guys could still contact each other after the break up and be friends, but then he realised you might of been taking it the wrong way and had high hopes for something more, so he started ignoring you, so he wouldnt 'lead you on'?
Why did you guys break up? It seems to me that your ex wants to move on and although that is very very hard to accept, perhaps you should try.
One of the things that may help you to move on, is his hearing from his actual voice that he wants to move on. Although that would probably hurt like hell, hearing him say it, it will most likely make it easier for you to move on, because you wont have any doubts about maybe he doees want to get back with you and stuff liek that...
So perhaps what you could do is try contacting him again and say 'for the sake of me moving on, i need to hear you tell me once more, one last time that you really want us both to move our seperate ways'. That way he can see you are tryign to move on and if hes a decent person will understand that its hard and will want to help and will give you that closure you need.
hope this has helped :)
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reader, techno  +, writes (6 September 2007):
personally what i would do is just fotally forget about the guy if he is ignoring then i think its kinda clear that he is not the one for u but if u do get back together then i dont think the relationship is what u want it to be there are plenty of fish in the sea hope everything works out for u
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reader, AylaJ +, writes (6 September 2007):
Its over. You don't owe him anything and you have no ties to him any more. He doesn't owe you anything and he has no ties with you anymore.
When someone initiates "I'm breaking up with you", that means "I am making the choice to move on without you romantically and although we have been through a lot together it is not enough for me want to continue this relationship."
Let go and heal. Its the best thing for you to do. It might still be a shock to you but you need to get him out of your system cry it all out let it all out. Then let it go when you let it out. So you can heal quicker.
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